Creative Fat Grrl

Creative Fat Grrl was a name I invented for myself when I wrote a web column for Lockergnome. I was looking for something that felt like me, not one of the bright, trendy and excitable young people who create energetic YouTube video posts on the side. It was something I could live up to without feeling left out. I kept it going for a couple of years. The name still works for creative arts sort of posts. Most of the posts in this category will be written for that column or others.

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Only the Boring are Bored Easily

At the end of the day, boredom is more about you than it is about the external environment. If you’re in a healthy place psychologically and there’s not much going on in your surroundings, that’s called “relaxation,” not “boredom.” You should try it sometime.

from Bustle: Boredom is the Worst Modern Emotion and Here’s Why

People who claim to get bored easily  have always irritated me. I think it takes someone who actually is boring to be bored easily. How lacking in imagination and intelligence they must be if they can’t find something interesting to do, something interesting to learn or watch or clean up or… the list is endless.

Fatherless Woman Syndrome » The Liberator Magazine

The woman who is too clingy holds on to a man for dear life in fear that he will reject her and leave her like the first man in her life—her dad. The man who she is clinging to perceives her as being too much of a responsibility, so he leaves.

The woman who is afraid of commitment is very defensive and guards her heart—she doesn’t let herself get too close. This woman usually calls herself the “independent woman.” The title is something she believes will shield her from dealing with a greater reality, the reality of having the “syndrome.” She may believe that being in a relationship with a man is a sign of weakness—not realizing that it can be a sign of strength, because that mate is there to compliment the person she is. Men want nothing more then to feel wanted by their woman. It makes a man feel good to be our “knights in shining armor,” so if he feels unappreciated he will eventually get tired of it, and leave.

In both instances, it leaves a woman in precisely the predicament she fears—alone.

Fatherless women have to be more conscious in their actions while in a relationship. Many times, we feel as if we are at war trying to fight off the symptoms of the syndrome in order to have a healthy relationship.

via Fatherless Woman Syndrome » The Liberator Magazine.

Fatherless Women: What Happens to the Adult Woman who was Raised Without her Father? – by Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D.

Finding Self-Confidence and Recognition in the Self

The core of the matter is, of course, that the self-confidence and recognition so avidly sought must be found within oneself rather than in the outer world – at least initially – in order to be of lasting and true value. The world of emotions that is avoided out of fear or because one never really learned what love is, must first be found in oneself (i.e. it is necessary to love the self before one loves another). The task of accomplishing this, requires that the individual become aware of him or herself (by observing the self, the self-talk, and all emotions that occur, good or bad, since all of these serve to give clues about the true self), and that absolute honesty about oneself be employed in this process. Let the reader be warned: this process is not a simple weekend project; it must be ongoing throughout life; it must become second nature, but it will pave the road to finding inner self-confidence and love for oneself, which will in turn lead to the abolishment of the need for finding these things in another. This is one of the roads to inner freedom that psychological knowledge offers.

via Fatherless Women: What Happens to the Adult Woman who was Raised Without her Father? – by Gabriella Kortsch, Ph.D..

Adventures in Video

Please turn off/ pause/ rest your camera while you are walking around. Bouncing images make me wish they were all still photographs.

I can’t read in the car. Each time I get car sick, or nearly so. So I don’t read in a moving vehicle. I can listen to music because I don’t have to look at anything to hear it.

Sometimes I get that swimming inside my own head feeling when I watch urban exploration videos. The bouncing images are hard to follow, often not in focus and move onto something else before I have seen as much as I want to see.

I haven’t tried making videos, more than twice. None of them were exploring videos. One was a woodpecker we watched in Orillia. Another was a video of family and that’s when I discovered my camera doesn’t auto correct direction when I take video. So I am not going to offer advice on how to take better videos based on all my years of experience.

I will say… one thing you can do is stop filming while you walk around. Turn the camera on when you are standing at the location you want to be and can take a moment to focus yourself and the camera.

Eventually I may be lured into trying exploring video making. I’m not keen on it. I really prefer a photograph I can take my time looking at. There are so many details I want to see and so many things I missed in the moment I was taking the photo but see later when I upload it.