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How to Make Christmas Morning a Hit

Christmas morning is full of excitement, especially if you have young children who will be up at the crack of dawn looking for signs of Santa Claus. It can be chaos and a very early wake up call, if you don’t have a plan or a routine set out before.

My Mother always did two things which helped make our Christmas morning a little easier on the grown ups and yet still exciting and wonderful for the children. First, on Christmas Eve we were allowed to open one present. She would pick which one it would be for each of us, four siblings. It didn’t occur to me until much later in life that she knew just which presents she was giving us. For the first dozen or so years I was always surprised that the four gifts she seemed to pick randomly from the pile were always new nightgowns or pajamas.

So we would wear our new night clothes to bed and already have the fun of opening a present and having something new. I think that helped spread the excitement out a bit and take off some of the edge from the suspense and wound up feeling we all had.

The second smart thing she always did was to have a rule that the parents could not be woken up until they either go themselves up or it was at least 7:30 AM. We had to be even quieter when my Grandparents and Aunt and Uncle were visiting. My Grandmother would wake up if a pin dropped. It wasn’t so hard being quiet though.

We were allowed to open our Christmas stockings without waiting for the adults. Those would have assorted small things to keep us busy. Little toys, a new book, when we were younger and then useful things, like a new hair brush, lip balm, or nice smelling soap, as we grew older. Sometimes the stocking gifts were reminders to brush our teeth and hair while we waited for everyone else to get up.

The smartest thing she put in the stocking were edible, not candy. There would be nuts to crack, granola bars and other snacks. The best thing of all (for me) was the Christmas orange which was always at the bottom toe of the Christmas stocking. Usually there were a few of them. Christmas is still about the taste of oranges for me. I buy them for myself every Christmas holiday.

We didn’t have a television in the room with the Christmas stockings and the tree. So there would be no one watching TV on Christmas morning. But, we would have the radio and we could put the Christmas music on whichever radio stations were playing it. Most of them would be on Christmas morning of course. The radio had to be pretty quiet but we liked listening to all the same old Christmas tunes and they were just fine as background or (when a favourite came on) it could be turned up if we closed the door to keep it from waking up Grandmother.

The food and small gifts would keep us busy until parents and guests were starting to stir. We would sit in the room with the Christmas tree, still lit from Christmas Eve. But, we never opened anything. My brother and one of my sisters would be sorting out presents, getting them in piles, ready to open everything. There would be some guessing, trying to decide what everything was. Some were obvious and some a mystery.

Once the adults were up, all of us in pajamas with hair every which way (but we did wash – the hair just seemed less important), we would help get breakfast started. Four young people can get things moving along quickly when they really have the spirit of co-operation. Breakfast was not rushed. We talked, we made plans for the day. it was a good way to move things along and yet calm down the rush to open gifts. Everyone was mellow, well fed and feeling comfortable by the time we actually did go back out to the room with the Christmas tree and all the gifts, lights and shiny things.

Presents were opened in some order, decided as we went along mainly. But, there were no more than two or three being opened at once. The adults were included. I think it was a very big help that the adults had gifts from the children too. We would happily stop opening gifts of our own so we could see how the adults reacted to the gifts we had wrapped up for them. Christmas was about giving for us. I still love Christmas shopping and finding just the right gift for everyone on my list.

After the presents were opened we cleaned up all the wrappings. I liked to stick the ribbons and bow in our hair for my sisters and I. We would wear them until the stickiness faded and then they would be tided up too. After things were sorted out around the Christmas tree the adults would make coffee and have a card game. My brother and I would play too, if there were spots open for another player.

That would be our Christmas morning. The rest of the day would come along, no real plan. There would be time for playing in the snow, or just taking a walk outside. It’s a shame there usually isn’t much snow for Christmas any more. I miss the heaps of snow at Christmas.

Fresh and Delicious Ideas for Christmas Breakfast

Just a Little Anti-Thanksgiving

antithanksAs the oldest of four kids, Thanksgiving was my least favourite holiday. I did like having the family come from all over Ontario, something I appreciate much more now that I am older.

My dislike of Thanksgiving was not for any of the popular political/ soapbox reasons about natives and the New World or even the mass killing of turkeys… I didn’t like all the extra work and the arguing and the fact that we spent most of the day and the day before making pies, homemade bread, all those vegetables and then it was all over (for the men) in about 20 minutes.

For the rest of us, myself and my Mother and my Grandmother, there was another hour of clean up. My brother would help sometimes – he surprises me every family holiday now because he is the first one up helping to clean up and serve the dinner, every single time. My two sisters were very little help. Sure, they had the excuse of being younger, but they could have done more. Ironically, one of my sisters now says she always helped and I was the one who did nothing. Yet, somehow I remember peeling apples for pies and she was never there. I remember mashing potatoes, washing dishes, setting the table… no sister visible.

More than siblings, I resented the men at Thanksgiving. Not my Grandfather, because he would pitch in a bit and he would have helped more if we had asked him. But, he seemed to have a pass on the work, an old traditional kind of guy and a quiet guy too. I mostly would be angry with my Dad. He would sit back, doing nothing and lord it over as if he were king of the castle and never had to lift a finger. Maybe that was the big difference in how I felt, his attitude. My Uncle would be there too, he would bring plates out and mostly clear the table. But most years he was too full to do much and happy to watch TV with the other men.

In the kitchen, that’s where Thanksgiving always seemed to be for me. We would be washing dishes before dinner, and again after dinner. Putting turkey and cabbage rolls and all those vegetables into serving dishes and platters and then putting all the leftovers into storage containers. Hours of time making pies and homemade bread. Some years we made apple strudel too, from scratch just like the bread and pies. My Mom and I worked together all Thanksgiving Day.

When my Grandmother (and sometimes my Aunt) came over they joined in. We talked about family history, people I had only met once (that I could remember) in my life. There was gossip too. But there really wasn’t much conversation. We talked about what we were doing mainly, how to make the bread right. There were always instructions, especially for me, being the youngest and newest member of the baking/ cooking crew. My sisters, by almost never being there, missed out.

You may read this and think this isn’t painting an anti-Thanksgiving picture. But, that wasn’t how I felt about the baking and cooking with my Mother and Grandmother. I did like that part. I participated every year. Sometimes I would get impatient with being overloaded with instructions, as if I didn’t already know what I was doing. Sometimes I would become the topic of conversation and hear about everything I should be doing and thinking differently. As aggravating as that would be, I’ve come to understand it was well meant.

I’m less anti-Thanksgiving these days because of my brother. Isn’t it funny how life moves back on itself? I was so angry about being left with the women working while the men watched TV as if that was all they had to do all day (it pretty much was all they did as far as I could see). I could never understand why men were allowed, even expected, to be so useless and yet (in the case of my Dad) so critical too. He would criticise everything I did, as I got older I would try to not be there and do less. Then he would accuse me of hiding to avoid work. Of course, he didn’t have to hide to avoid work.

Anyway, my brother is different. I don’t know how or when it happened. He could have grown up to be a TV watching on Thanksgiving, like his Dad. But, he didn’t. It wasn’t while we grew up, he did help some but not the way he really pitches in now. I can go to his house for Thanksgiving and it can be me that does nothing but watch TV. I’m still kind of amazed by this every time.

So I’m less anti-Thanksgiving but it will never become one of my favourite holidays. What do you really think and feel about Thanksgiving in a personal way? Most people talk about the natives and old history that doesn’t affect most of us personally. For me that’s not what Thanksgiving is about. It’s not about the culling of turkeys, the native peoples or religion and being thankful to any god. Thanksgiving is about family, the good, the bad and the ugly, all part of a pack of people working together one way or another.

 Why Complicate Thanksgiving with Old News?

I don’t really understand the point of the politically based anti-Thanksgiving theme. Why do people need to bring old history into a family holiday? Thanksgiving is a day to be thankful for the things we have, each of us, individually or as a family.

I know negative people and I know people who take on the woes of the world as if they were responsible for all of them, even though they could never have been in all those places at the same time. I don’t understand this way of thinking. You will never change everyone and even to try is breaking your own rules for everyone having freedom of thought and expression. So, why keep flogging a dead horse?

Enjoy Thanksgiving for what it is. Why make it so complicated with old news? I’m not going to take responsibility for something done before I was even born. I’m not going to drag religion into a holiday when I haven’t been inside a church in at least 10 years. I’m also going to eat turkey, guilt-free. I like meat. I don’t like tofu.

If you don’t like Thanksgiving and refuse to celebrate the holiday – do it for your own reasons.

The history of Oktoberfest is much bigger than beer

On Oct. 12, 1810, Crown Prince Ludwig of Bavaria was married to Princess Therese of Saxony-Hildburghausen. A huge public festival was held on the fields outside the gates of Munich, including a horse race in the royal couple’s honor.The horse races were held again the following year, growing the festival into an annual occasion: Oktoberfest.As the festival grew, it added more and more rides, carnival games, agricultural shows and circus acts.The signature draw of the festival — beer — was initially offered at a few scattered stands. Those were soon replaced by massive tents and beer halls capable of seating 94,000 people.The beer served at Oktoberfest must be brewed within Munich and conform to various specifications. In recent years, attendees have downed over 6 million liters of the famous brew.

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