Married men online looking for a woman to dominate them... has it never occurred to these men that they already have the perfect woman to dominate them?

They say they want a woman to enforce chastity and not let them have sex. They want a woman who makes them do things, like clean the kitchen on their knees. They also don't want to consider her real needs or desires.

Aren't these men already married to their perfect Domme? She does not want to have sex with them. She would be quite happy if he did more around the house. Also, she is used to him not really considering her needs.

I suspect the only thing missing is the costume. How many wives would dress up if their husbands paid them $100 or more an hour?

*I'm not looking to meet anyone here just keeping a profile up for the sake of having a login on the site.

For me D/s (domination and submission) are fun. There should be humour, laughter, creativity and exploration. In a Domme/ sub relationship if the woman is playing by his rules, his program, etc then she should at least be getting paid for her time, or allowed to bring along a book to read for the really boring parts.*

Too many times I've given men a chance and ended up with nothing or less than nothing (hope lost). For anyone who is sincere about wanting to meet someone the worst place to spend your time are the very sites which should be your best resource to find someone. The sites are packed with trolls who either want to screw around online only or want to find a woman to screw, physically without actually bothering to know her name or anything else about her.

I don't want to be a woman screwed. If he wants online only he can stay there. If he wants to screw in person he can get a doll at a sex shop. I'm not willing to become a non-person so some walking dickhead can get a screw or screw around.

Yes, I am somewhat bitter. Mostly I'm just annoyed and out of patience with selfish, little men. Sadly, that seems to be pretty much all you find online. I have met very few who could prove to be otherwise).

*This is my contribution to #AdultSexEdMonth. This is personal and does contain mentions of taboo sexual fetishes and kinks. I don't apologize for the contents of my sexual fantasies. *

I have a problem with sex. The problem happens when I involve anyone else with my enjoyment of sex. Masturbation is divine. You won't catch me saying that to anyone, in person. But, masturbation is fully under my control, there is no feedback from cheap seats and I can do whatever I want to myself because I know what I like and how I like it. I explore self pleasuring - I've been doing it for a few decades and I'm just getting better at it all the time.

Why does sex have to be about more than one person? I think most people consider self pleasure to still be a selfish act. Or, something for only the lonely. …more

Originally posted to Sex Kitten.net.

I have thought about taking it on the road, when it comes to a BDSM relationship. I thought about staying in a hotel overnight and the things we could or could not do. I don’t agree with people who play in public. People in general should not become part of any BDSM play. It is more than just kissing or fondling in public and those are not things I would do either.

I don’t think there is something wrong with BDSM. I don’t think it should be something to be ashamed of, kept secret or hidden. However, that does not mean we should be shoving it in front of people regardless of their own feelings and sensibilities. Have respect for other people and keep your play sensitive to those around you in public places. You may have “the right” to play but there is also the right for everyone else not to be exposed to your play or be made to feel uncomfortable from it.

So, if you can find something like a private hotel, motel or a bed and breakfast which allows and even encourages private BDSM and sex play, then why not make a plan to use that service? The room is designed as a play space, with extras available or included. Privacy is assured.

Would you make it a business yourself? It would be very much a niche, a smaller niche than catering to the general public. You might have some interesting clean ups and repairs to do. You may have to keep track of people you don’t want back as clients. But, you could also build up a list of local BDSM or swingers or fetish lovers who use your service and through them and local munch groups you may have a reliable and loyal clientele.

Originally posted to Sex Kitten.net.

I am a Domme Princess and I expect to be treated like one – until I tell you otherwise.

I don’t like the Princess by Day – Slut by Night thing. It messes things up. By day women should be seen but not heard, the shy virgin? Or is it the Princess who is a commanding bitch, the off with their head type?

Not just that, but why does a woman have to wait for the right hour to behave a certain way? What if she wants to be treated like a Princess with doors opened, polite conversation, etiquette and manners and at the same time she wants a man who enjoys opening those doors and feeling her hand smack his butt as she lets him enter ahead of her. People do not fit into any role exactly and why would we want to? Far too predictable.

I’d rather be provoking and contrary.

I don’t really want to be a Princess. I’m not into all that pretty girlish stuff. I do like good manners, grooming those things which I consider the basics for human interaction. But, I’m not going to pretend to be sweet and fluffy. I am nice, that’s enough.

I don’t want to be a whore or a slut either. What is a slut, a whore? Why is that a word we still use mainly for women? If anyone behaves like a slut it is the men who brag about it, who assume they can “get” any woman and then belittle the women they do “get”. Is that the sort of women men want by night? One who sleeps with a lot of men and thinks nothing of any of them.

Yes, I still want to be a Princess Domme. But, on my own terms.