How to Dom with Light Bondage

• Restraints
• Sensual Deprivation
• Discipline
• Safety

Restraints

Restraints are rope, cuffs, etc. Start with something you can easily work with, safely. You want your submissive to be able to get out of the bondage quickly if things suddenly become too intense. Also, you don't want to start out making a lot of fancy knots then discover you can't get them all undone again. Any restraint used must be tested before you start using it as bondage.

Restraints don't have to be physical. Mental bondage is a lovely thing and great for beginners. You have the power to control your submissive - knowing his bondage is not enforced by anything but his own decision to obey. There is more power in a submissive obedient by choice rather than ropes, chains, leather, etc.

Sensual Deprivation

Sensual deprivation is an element of bondage. Blindfolds are less complicated than some methods which include a full hood over the head. Also, a blindfold is simple for beginners to use and experiment with. Don't take away more than one of the five senses at a time (for a beginner in bondage). Keep it fun rather than making them go from nervous and uncertain to actually being afraid.

Think of sensual deprivation as the element of surprise. Use it to tease and give your submissive less control. Build suspense and anticipation. While using a blindfold, narrate everything you are doing or plan to do. While they are in restraints you have taken away their ability to use their hands. A blindfold limits what they can see so they strain a little to use the senses they have left. Make sure you use as many senses as you can when you deprive them of one, or more.

Discipline

Discipline includes spanking but is not limited to just that. Discipline can be a punishment. Discipline can be a set of rules or standards to be kept by the submissive. There is a lot you can do with discipline as mental and physical bondage.

You may have heard of domestic discipline. Spanking is usually included with this. The submissive is treated like a child or dog being trained. They are expected to perform tasks, mainly house cleaning. They may be expected to wear aprons.

The Gor books by John Norman inspired another branch of kinkiness which follows a strict discipline and set or orders. Lesser known are the books by Sharon Green who wrote a female Dom series set on other planets involving men and women being taken from Earth. I especially like her books myself.

Safety

Safety matters. I'm not making it first on my list but it should always be part of your considerations and planning. Anything you bring into play during your bondage should be tested out and practiced with. You don't want to struggle with toys, tools or feel incompetent in the heat of the moment when you are both wound up.

Safety includes some time afterwards, to wind down, get feedback and care for your submissive: aftercare. Don't skip aftercare. This time is good for the submissive to feel cared for, literally. The Dom also needs this time to wind down, release emotions and reconnect with their partner.

As a sex blogger, how do you describe whatever it is we do? How do you feel about telling others and what do you tell people who aren't negative but don't understand what you do and why you do it?

See Tweets about #SexBloggersAre on Twitter. See what people are saying and join the conversation.

Source: #SexBloggersAre hashtag on Twitter

The real question is - How do Wookies type with all that hair on their fingers? Once you get past that go ahead and read the questions and answers Kilted Wookie posted for this distinguished award in blogging neatness. To follow are the questions I answered when it was my turn and last - the questions and nominees I've passed this award along to.

1. How did you come across your blogging persona?
2. What inspired you to write your first blog?
3. What is your greatest unfulfilled fantasy/dream?
4. What has blogging taught you about yourself?
5. How many "real life" people know you are a blogger and how did it make you feel when you discovered they knew?
6. Lights on or off?
7. What do you normally wear in bed?

Source: A Real Neat Blog? | A Kilted Wookie Writes...

How did you come across your blogging persona?

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From Gracie on SK: Should you wish to participate, here are my relatively random questions:

*Whipped cream in a can, non-dairy topping in a tub, or ala mode? (And, yeah, we're talking sex play here, not a topping on the kind of pie you'd get at a diner.) Elaborate. wink*

To be honest I cringe at the idea of sticky stuff on my skin in that way. So I'd be none of the above. But, if he were to pester me about it, he would be the one wearing the ice cream.

So, you're a sex blogger, or at least a blogger not afraid to be here and respond to such questions... If you're in a serious or committed relationship, which came first: the blog or your relationship? If you're not in a serious relationship, one day you might be; when and how do you fancy divulging your blogging vice?

I'm not in a committed relationship. I tend to tell all - I'm pretty horrible at keeping secrets. So, I'd already have him reading my blog by the time things got in a committed way.

Would you rather be a superhero or a villain? Why?

A villain by far. I'm already known for being "the nice one" among family and friends. Do you know how limiting that is? Yes, I am nice, I respect others, I help others... and so on. But, if I could let go of all that I would LOVE to be the villain. Likely that's what a lot of the attraction of being Dom is. I can feel like I'm dangerous, or at least not so nice.

What's worse: marketing your blog or marketers contact you for freebie posts at your site?

I don't mind marketing my site so much. I do things my own way. I read what others say we should do and then I decide to take them seriously or not. People asking for freebies gets annoying because they don't show any care or respect for what I'm doing. They offer junk, irrelevant junk, mindless and meaningless praise and they even try spinning it all by telling me what a great favour they are doing me - letting me have free content for my site.

*What's the worst/rudest/nosiest question you've ever been asked that you refused to blog about? And will you answer it now? wink*

I have no idea. I usually answer any question. Even something kind of shocking at first will get me thinking and next thing, I've written a whole answer inside my head (if not in the blog too). 

Source: In Which Am Tagged & I Grudgingly Respond | Sex~Kitten.net

I began to wonder how sex robots would change things for sex workers as I was reading yet another post about female sex robots and their orifices. For men, it seems sex robots are not very different from sex workers, neither are quite human. Beyond the sex worker issue, however, will the availability of sex robots have a big impact on sex work for human sex workers?

I know, people claim men want human interaction. Sex workers say a lot of their job isn't actually sex. I think it's all in your perspective of what is sex and what is not. If you're talking about sex, catering to a client, that's still along the lines of sex. It's not a regular conversation with ups and downs about life, the universe and everything. In spite of what men say, in my experience, they want sex. The human element is annoyingly in the way. A woman can say no. A sex worker might say no, or ask for more money.

Sex robots seem ideal for men in this way.  It's like having your porn and eating it too. Store your sex robot in a closet when you're done, likely they can even be self-cleaning.

• Instead of a paying for phone sex - talk dirty to the sex bot.
• Instead of going out and picking up a sex worker, just pull the sex bot out from under the bed.
• Instead of looking at online porn and paying for it, dress up your sex bot and do whatever you want to it.

What do you think?