Intolerance is black. Not black and white and no room at all for shades of grey. Intolerance is a dictatorship.

To me it seems intolerance has become more important than respect, love or anything else. If you read the intolerance manual you would believe it was my generation and those before us who were intolerant, bigots, and so on. But, that isn't true. We may have been racist, but we were not intolerant. We had black, white, shades of grey, men, women, old and young.

Now there is just one way everything is allowed to be and everyone must stick to the right rules. I see only black, there can be no exception. Any feelings or thoughts (and certainly any actions!) to the contrary will not be tolerated. Even those you love will choose the rules over you. Don't get in the way, don't have any other opinion and don't complain.

Writing this, this morning, I wonder how people have gotten this way.

I have tolerance. I'm sad, I'm angry and I'm disappointed but I am not throwing rocks at anyone. I am not insisting on having my way or ignoring someone else who does not agree with me. I am tolerating someone who ignored my beliefs, my feelings and everything I am. I am not throwing anyone out, or under a bus. I am not screaming, hurting someone else, or insisting on a boycott. I am not using social media to gather others to my witch hunt.

I am of the generation who believe in human rights, including the human right to be human. Being human means everyone is entitled to be imperfect. Being human I expect people to not have all the same thoughts, feelings, culture or experiences. I like to explore other cultures and experiences. I like knowing there are people who disagree with me but listen to how I think and care enough to tolerate me when I feel or think differently.

You have to be entitled to be so firmly intolerant.

Today people have a feeling of entitlement they say. I have seen this in the younger generation, but not just there. The feeling of entitlement is part of the blackness of intolerance. I think it backs it up, keeps it from letting in any of those other colours. You have to be entitled in order to be so firmly intolerant.

Where did we lose the idea that it is ok to say no and have that respected? Of course, you can say no to the acceptable things: rape, bullying, racism, homophobia and transphobia. To a much smaller extent you can still say no to religious discrimination and a few other, older and less popular in the media discriminations we are still allowed to say no to. Racism is not tolerated, if you are black. If you are any other race, culture or colour, you will need to have tolerance. I'm not sure why. Why are some causes supported so fervently and others almost forgotten and ignored? Why do only some people matter?

We have lost the right to respectfully disagree.

I wish people could remember, or care, or respect the fact that we do not all agree. We do not all have to agree. But, with intolerance there is no right to respectfully disagree. I respectfully disagreed but I was not respectfully tolerated, instead I faced the intolerance and being family, years of love, respect and everything else could not overcome the intolerance which is held up like a solid, black wall, higher and thicker than any human being can ever hope to come across, or around.

I am sad and sad is grey, not black.

--Comment from the original post.

2012/04/03 at 7:49 pm Arlee Bird tossingitout.blogspot.com

A phobia is actually a psychological disorder. Many groups now use the term to slur anyone who disagrees with them. It’s a dilution of words and terminology that is not a very good use of language. Kind of in a 1984 sort of way.

You are a smart lady. And I mean that as in intelligent.

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Me: The word homophobia has annoyed me from the start. It’s claiming everyone who disagrees with homosexuality is afraid of it. Very prejudgmental.

Years ago I read a very sexy story about a dolphin having sex with a female human. The dolphin pushed her into it. But it wasn't aggressive, just persistent and then her own curiosity took her the rest of the way. (She didn't leave or stop coming back). I don't remember details but it was something about dolphins who had been kept for research.

I know we are all supposed to think human/ animal sex is bad. But, it was such a short time ago that other types of sex and sexuality were bad and I start to wonder... how far will it go? How long will it be before the media convinces people that sex with animals (and children) is acceptable. I'm not even typing a question mark there because I think it is likely.

Quite likely it will start with robot animals and children. After all, they aren't real. So to use an inanimate object for your pleasure should be just fine, right? Not really different from using any common sex toy you could buy online.

Bypassing all the rules and regulations and ethics and all that political correctness we pretend to hold so highly...

Would sex with a robot animal turn you on? Would you watch or read about robot animals having sex or even forcing/ being forced into sexual situations?

No need to leave a comment. Just keep it to yourself. Be honest when no one's looking.

To be clear for those who find this shocking - I'm not in favour of sex with real animals or children. No matter what the pedophiles say, it is not consensual when it involves a minor or other creature who can not clearly and completely communicate. Or, has the maturity to understand what is being asked/ acted upon.

But, where does that leave robots... Something for your consideration.

Other sites writing about this are calling it a rebellion against old, traditional Japanese culture and standards. It may include that but it's not doing such a great job of changing any standards. Instead it is just slipping deeper into the old stereotypes of women being cute little pets kept on a leash (of some kind). This is not rebelling or finding freedom, or becoming your own person (woman). This is just sad and panders to male ego and fantasies. But, porn still sells really well and there are almost no real restrictions to any of it, not enough censorship or protection of women and children.

The term gyaru is a Japanese transliteration of the English slang word gal. - Wikipedia

Gyaru - a subculture made up of fashion conscious Japanese women and girls essentially rejecting their own oriental features and aesthetic traditions.

Something to note about being a Gyaru is that it’s actually very expensive to maintain the look. Some of the Manba Gyaru evolved into yet another sub-genre called O-Gyaru, who don’t wash off their make-up to save the expense of re-applying.

The O-Gyarus are generally anti-washing and hate spending on the upkeep of their looks so much so that they tend to stay indoors all day in their pyjamas and only venture out clubbing at night.

It might not be surprising that these kinds of Gyarus are very often unemployed and considered lazy by Japanese society.

... gyaru make-up looks distinctly inhuman and cartoon-ish– especially the eyes. With the Gyaru subculture placing a big emphasis on being all things toy-like and cute, you don’t have to look very far to see that the influence of this style of make-up comes from actual Japanese cartoons.

Kawaii (literally, “lovable”, “cute”, or “adorable”) is the quality of cuteness in the context of Japanese culture. It has become a prominent aspect of Japanese popular culture, entertainment, clothing, food, toys, and most importantly, personal appearance, behavior, and mannerisms.

It’s claimed that Kawaii Syndrome, a.k.a “cute” syndrome has replaced the former Japanese aesthetics of “beautiful” and “refined”.

‘In Japan, cuteness is expected of men and women. Many Japanese men are drawn to the owner of cute merchandise, because it is reminiscent of little girls, and Japanese women try to act cute to attract men’.

A subculture of women rebelling against their Asian heritage in favor of looking like cute, westernized, sexualized cartoon children.

Source: The Asian Subculture trying to ERASE their own Faces | Messy Nessy Chic

Judge Roger Dutton described Newland as "scheming," "deceitful" and "highly manipulative."

"You were so convincing in your cruel deception of [the victim] she thought she had finally found a man she could love and be with," he said, reported Mirror Online.

Newland acted for her own "sexual gratification" and ignored the "devastating" impact on the victim, he added.

Source: Woman who tricked friend into sex with fake penis jailed - NY Daily News

Women have been saying the same things (read the judge's pronouncement above) about men for as long as I can remember. Yet, none of them are arrested and jailed for their actions. Why is this woman? Is it because she used a fake penis instead of having a real one?

I don't think tricking someone into having sex is ok. I don't think either gender should, with or without sex toys.

I think there would be far more women as BDSM Dominants if women understood what it really is. The male version is just a fantasy, their fantasy. The porn version is fiction, created for men who like the fantasy. So, women don't really see what Domming is, just the FemDom fiction.

A woman who likes to Dom is not mean, vicious or nasty. It's not about causing harm or taking out your frustrations. It's about power, fun, creativity, romance and sensuality, among other things. I like to focus on the creativity and sensuality. (That makes it fun for me).

How many women would love to have control of their man if they really did have control? Tell him what you want, how you want it and when you want it... and he obeys. It works for the men who are submissive too.

There is no guarantee of sex with BDSM. Sex isn't used as a reward or punishment. In Dominance and submission he doesn't obey in order to get sex. He doesn't obey because you command him, like a drill sergeant. He doesn't obey because you're wearing tight black leather and high heels. It's not about worshipping women either, though some like to add that in. He obeys because he wants to, this is what he wants. He wants to obey. He wants to be a good boy. He wants to be happy, with you.

Have you ever told a man he's a "good boy"? Watch his face. Those are powerful words. As a Dominant woman you can get a lot of mileage out of "good boy". Play with it sometime. You don't have to try anything else, just slip a "good boy" into the conversation. You can say it softly, romantically, sensually. Or, say it with power, energy and a little forcefulness.

Subtle, Simple Ways for Women to Dip into Domination

• Hold his hand. Take his hand as you cross the street. Lead him by the hand and walk in front of him.
• Order for him. You don't need to order him around. Try ordering for him at a restaurant before he lets the server know what he wants.
• Dress him. Tell him what you want him to wear next time you go out together. Pick out clothes that look good on him and tell him so if he objects.
• Kiss him first. Pick a moment when it won't lead to anything else. Just a quick, impulsive kiss, or a fondle, caress, tickle...
• Ask him to touch you and tell him how to do it right (as you want to be touched). Anything from rubbing your shoulders, warming your hands, or stroking your back. It's up to you.
• Accept thanks and compliments from him. Don't be modest or turn away positive comments. Reward him with a smile instead and thank him too.

None of these things are Earth shattering. But, you can get a feeling for being in power in your relationship. You can see how fun it is and start to want more. Also, as you take charge you begin to ask for more, expect more and then it's just a step farther to telling him you're going to try something new... like blindfolding him or not letting him touch you with his hands while you have your own way with him.

For women who really enjoy Domination it's not about wearing tight costumes, carrying a whip or being a bitch. Those can be elements of it, if that's what you actually want. But, BDSM can be all about sensuality and pleasure. As a Dominant woman you just do it YOUR way. The hard part is sticking to doing it your way and not letting things slip into giving him what he wants while you wait for it to be over. There is nothing so dull and boring as being a McDomme, a woman doing what he wants, his way and wishing you had brought along a good book for yourself.