A little blog to help you put all those naughty thoughts into words.

Myself, I am burnt out from the adult side of writing. I wrote a column for two years, weekly, on Adult Backwash. I thought it would be a good way to meet men. It didn't really work out that way.

From that experience however, I have learned that I don't want to meet men who are into Internet (or any other really) porn. Sure, look now and then. But guys who are overly absorbed by the stuff seem to have left reality behind. I think having it so easily and readily available ruins them. They can no longer really function as a man. Instead they expect women to all be porn stars. Of course, we are not. Have no real interest in body surgery or starvation and we certainly have more going on in our lives than to just be available for sex at the drop of his pants.

Anyway, like it or not, that's my take on the whole writing for the adult market thing. Would I do it again? Maybe, if I was sure it was a women only site. I could write erotica for women. It makes me feel kind of cheap and icky to think of men reading it though. I don't think they really get it.

I just posted this for the Erotica community at Adult BackWash.

Is your life enough of a soap opera or do you embellish it for your blog? Admit it... you've played with a few details, added an inch or taken a mile, here and there. It's all for the cause of the readable blog. We all want readers, feedback, numbers on our traffic counters. Being human is human.

What if you traded in the whole truth thing and went for the complete fiction. I've read blogs that were blatantly fiction. Unashamed to be totally inspired rather than perspired. Is it bad? Is it wrong? Why do you care! It's a blog, not life and death. Have fun, take it as far as you can and see what happens. Experiment and explore and live the fantasy in text.

How far would you go, if you could go? Toss out the politically correct, the inbred values and do anything and everything. What comes to mind first? What taboo will you plunge into? No need to think twice, if you're timid about it go for the anonymous blog. After all, do you really want to meet anyone who would read the stuff you plan to write?

Have fun, keep on blogging. :)

BDSM Scribes list is having spanking story challenge. I have just submitted mine: Spanking the Brat. If it gets picked it will appear in The Dominant's View ezine. If not I will stick it somewhere else.

"It's time women stomped on a few feet (or inches) and took back our words: slut, bitch, hag, whore and all the rest of them. They belong to us. Words are our power. No man really has the same power with words that women do. I think that's why men have tried to throw words at us like darts. They chip at our glory with our own greatest tool and assets. But, the words are ours, still.

Think, what are women so well known for which men have never grasped? Communication. Men will even admit this if you catch them in a particularly honest moment. I've seen them post it, right here at Adult BW even.

Also, did you know most bloggers are women and the numbers of women rise dramatically when it comes to sex bloggers. Women talk about relationships, passion, sensuality and sexuality. Men are close mouthed. Or, they will talk about the crude basics like how well they nailed her. Sadly, they may be the only one who thinks that way about their skills. Which is another whole column I will write someday. I think I should have that third lover first though. Real versus cyber but still, I've seen some sad fumbling whether on my flesh or virtual.

Anyway, back to the words. I want women to stop thinking being called a bitch is negative. First of all, think how surprised people will be if you take the worst word they can hurl at you as a compliment. If you say "thank you". If you laugh while they stand there red faced, eyes still bugging out and looking amazed that their insult missed the mark so completely.

Don't think of Bitch as a female dog, think of it as a powerful woman. A woman who knows her own mind and is not afraid to use it. A woman who knows what she wants and goes out there and gets it. Ball grabbing and everything, just like those bags of mostly testosterone.

Slut and whore are no longer words to chip at our sexuality. Now they prove our sexual virility, our sensuality and our power over men, especially when it comes to sex. If they call you a slut you know you've done a really good job making him drool. Good for you! Let the dog lie there in his own wet spot and wish he could have a slut like you.

Hag, that's a word meant to hit us right between the eyes. We think of hags as old women, grey, washed out, worn out, wrinkled, ugly and badly groomed to say the least. But, a hag is not actually any of those things. The hag is the wise old woman, the woman of the woods, the witch, the midwife, the wild Earth Mother. Hags are powerful women too. Women of nature and power. Most of the less than complimentary words for women have come from powerful beginnings. The power of these words was drained away as was the power of womankind. As we stopped being matriarchies we lost our best words. I still would not like to be called a hag or a frump or any of those others. There is malicious intent behind the words. However, the words themselves are being unfairly (ignorantly) used.

It's time for us to make the words mean something else, make them positive and powerful. Then we will have all our best tools and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Call us what you will, it's all good. We are Woman!"

They are having a bake sale at work today. There was a notice up on the boards about donating your baked goods. No time or contact information, just the date. It kind of annoyed me. Here I am, struggling to be a good, dutiful bill payer (usually wondering if there is life under all those bills) and now I should hustle baked goods for them? Not just the expense (which is hefty for all that butter and other goodies I don't keep around) but my time. I worked till close last night. That would give me this morning to get the supplies, do the baking and then show up for work 3 hours early to deliver them before noon. Why would I do that? Sure, it's for the associates fund but they don't even include the cashiers in any of their meetings. So, I stayed home and watched the snow flurries and updated the adult content here and there. I'm making an adult page for my ShopGrrl site but I won't link it from the main page. I like keeping it separate. I still have that nice grrl image thing to cope with. I'm not sure if it's all in my mind any more or whatever... But, it's there.