I began looking into the idea of Domme women and submissive Daddys after finding a group for this on Fetlife: Dominant little girls/ submissive daddies. I looked online for more about this idea but came up with very little. The best I found so far is a post on Miss Violette Thorngate.

... the dynamic of a manipulative young girl in control and an older man under her pretty little thumb can be SO exciting!

I also just received a sweet belated Valentine from someone, reminding me that my daddy/Girl role model is the delicious Claudia from Interview with the Vampire. She plays the innocent to manipulate the older men in her life to her advantage, by turns seducing and drawing their pity, threatening and indulging them. One of the best moments for me is the scene in the film when her piano teacher scolds her with a rap on the knuckles for a misplayed piece. She turns to look at him in a sort of incredulity. The next cut has her happily playing the piece perfectly, for her own pleasure, and the teacher slumping over, drained of his life force.

This isn't how I see the submissive Daddy relationship going. The manipulating isn't my thing at all. My games are more along the lines of Scrabble.

Still working on this idea. Trying to understand what makes it appeal to me and how it fits into my Domme philosophy of life. I do know it has a lot more to do with romance and courtship than manipulation.

I edited out my location, that's just a bit too much to put out there. I am back to looking, less bright eyed and optimistic each time I try again. But, I do seem to keep picking myself up and trying again.

I want romance and bondage. I want to find a man who sincerely wants a relationship and D/s as a lifestyle. Not 24/7 - that would be too restrictive for me. I am my own person and I like having time to be me.

A man who is about my age (not much younger or older). A man who is large in height and not a thin guy either. I'm not thin and a bigger guy suits me. Must be local to the area. I've tried long distance and it does not work.

I know what being a Domme means to me and I won't be interested in any sub who tries various methods of topping from the bottom. Sharing ideas is one thing, giving me a grocery list of wants is another thing.  I don't like messy or extreme stuff. I like doing things my own way and in my own style. Teasing and coming up with new ways to torment a poor subbie is what I enjoy.

I do not want a guy who is desperate to serve. I want someone who stands on his own two feet, has outside interests and enjoys life. I want someone I can spend time with whether we hang out with coffee, take a road trip, or babysit my sister's kids. I'm a bit quiet and a bit  of an old fashioned nice girl. I'm also very creative and I like trying and learning new things.  What matters is intelligence, humour, grooming and spelling does count too.

If you are a single male sub in the area, in the 40-something age range send me a note. However, if you just want something female to screw, save your time and buy a blow up doll. 

Possibly it's because I love being touched, especially my back and breasts, but I have an interest in lactation as a fetish. I don't know if I would really want to do this. Sounds like a lot of work before there are any results. A lot of work to keep it flowing and a lot of work if you have to lactate every few hours.  That would especially make it into a chore or a duty, which isn't something I'd enjoy being stuck with on a regular basis.

Also, I don't think I could feel the same about a guy who sucked my breasts like an infant. In reality I don't see a male submissive as a child or lesser being that I need to guide through life and whatever else. I want someone who is on par with myself. He just likes to do what I tell him and get stuck in the odd cage now and then.

I know there is a large group who like sex with dolls, the doll fetish. That isn't me. I am not interested in an inanimate and unfeeling, unresponsive object. There are various interesting things about sex with an android/ robot.

First, an android can be fully male and functional and yet still be a real virgin, not even know how to perform sex and it (the android) may not even have thought about sexual relationships. So there is the whole thing about corrupting something that isn't a child and does not have that innocence and yet it would not be the same as playing with an experienced adult. I'm not sure if this really appeals to me or not. I think I would rather have a partner who knows what is coming versus one who doesn't have a clue and thus can't begin to get excited until after the event. All that build up and suspense would be missing.

Second, on the other side, an android could be created for sex, for serving women. This side of the android is very erotic. It would have endless stamina, all kinds of knowledge and it is very unlikely to say no or be afraid or intimidated to try anything at all. However, would it be convincing as a sub? If it has less at stake than a real human male could it really put the same energy into submitting, being teased and tormented. Would chastity, for instance, have no real meaning for an android? Does it truly desire to be sensual or is it just one more thing on it's to-do list?

The android who serves it's master is erotic in spite of it's possible disinterest. It would obey. It would serve. There would be no need to feel bad about getting what you want out of the encounter. You could be very selfish and have no real concern for the enjoyment the android may or may not be having. At the end it could even clean itself up and leave you to do whatever you want.

This is another great thing about the android. It is easy to put away when you are done with it. Stuff it in the back of your closet, roll it under the bed or just leave it to stand out of the way in a corner somewhere, it makes no difference to the android. You can even unplug it, use the off switch to save power. If you get the deluxe model you can even have it stay on and perform in other ways: wash floors, drive you to work, answer all your emails, etc.

Wikipedia: Robot Fetishism - (also ASFR or technosexuality is a fetishistic attraction to humanoid or non-humanoid robots; also to people acting like robots or people dressed in robot costumes.

Technosexuality

Regina Lynn at Wired writes: 10 Reasons I'd Rather Marry a Robot.

10 Things you Always Wanted to Know About Robot Sex but were Afraid to Ask - article by Kal Cobalt.

This is my comment from a post on Vanilla Edge about the male in chastity for a year:

As a Domme without a lot of experience and none with cock cages/ chastity in a male, I would be very reluctant to try male chastity with a guy who has no experience himself. First, the hunt for equipment that would work for him. Do I really want to go through trying to find which style will work to both keep him chaste and not stop him from having basic use of his penis for peeing and not give him problems with liquid which can not be washed out. I see this as a big problem in that the skin would be very irritated.

Second, the problem of him asking to be let out of the chastity. Is it for show because he wants to play the game where I tell him he is stuck in it or does he really need to be let out of it. It is one thing if his cock were showing signs of being raw/ rubbed or etc by the cage. There could be other problems with his plumbing or the balls that do not show but are serious as well.

So, a guy who has had experience and can at least not be an idiot about the whole thing would be someone I would try it with. Otherwise I feel I am getting in over my head and that is not something I like.

The When I read posts by men who talk about how great it would be to be locked up for a year I seldom take them seriously. In far too many cases these men have no real experience at all. It is just the fantasy that they think will be so great. They think finding a Domme to do this with is all they really need. That puts a lot on the Domme and, I feel, for the sub himself this is really stupid. There has to be a limit to what the Domme is expected to know. At some point a man must be responsible for his own safety and health. For myself, there is only so much I can read about versus having real experience.

Anyway, this is a long comment. Thank you for leaving comments about chastity in my blog. The man I am considering (as a whole relationship not just play) is interested in this. I am too. But, I have reservations. To me, the best plan is an entire cage which I can lock him into and let him out again. Not a cock cage but a full body cage. Much safer, unless there is a fire or something drastic. (Which I would have prepared for by having a key in his reach, with the understand it is not to be used). Safe play is very important to me.