I know there is a large group who like sex with dolls, the doll fetish. That isn't me. I am not interested in an inanimate and unfeeling, unresponsive object. There are various interesting things about sex with an android/ robot.

First, an android can be fully male and functional and yet still be a real virgin, not even know how to perform sex and it (the android) may not even have thought about sexual relationships. So there is the whole thing about corrupting something that isn't a child and does not have that innocence and yet it would not be the same as playing with an experienced adult. I'm not sure if this really appeals to me or not. I think I would rather have a partner who knows what is coming versus one who doesn't have a clue and thus can't begin to get excited until after the event. All that build up and suspense would be missing.

Second, on the other side, an android could be created for sex, for serving women. This side of the android is very erotic. It would have endless stamina, all kinds of knowledge and it is very unlikely to say no or be afraid or intimidated to try anything at all. However, would it be convincing as a sub? If it has less at stake than a real human male could it really put the same energy into submitting, being teased and tormented. Would chastity, for instance, have no real meaning for an android? Does it truly desire to be sensual or is it just one more thing on it's to-do list?

The android who serves it's master is erotic in spite of it's possible disinterest. It would obey. It would serve. There would be no need to feel bad about getting what you want out of the encounter. You could be very selfish and have no real concern for the enjoyment the android may or may not be having. At the end it could even clean itself up and leave you to do whatever you want.

This is another great thing about the android. It is easy to put away when you are done with it. Stuff it in the back of your closet, roll it under the bed or just leave it to stand out of the way in a corner somewhere, it makes no difference to the android. You can even unplug it, use the off switch to save power. If you get the deluxe model you can even have it stay on and perform in other ways: wash floors, drive you to work, answer all your emails, etc.

Wikipedia: Robot Fetishism - (also ASFR or technosexuality is a fetishistic attraction to humanoid or non-humanoid robots; also to people acting like robots or people dressed in robot costumes.

Technosexuality

Regina Lynn at Wired writes: 10 Reasons I'd Rather Marry a Robot.

10 Things you Always Wanted to Know About Robot Sex but were Afraid to Ask - article by Kal Cobalt.

This is my comment from a post on Vanilla Edge about the male in chastity for a year:

As a Domme without a lot of experience and none with cock cages/ chastity in a male, I would be very reluctant to try male chastity with a guy who has no experience himself. First, the hunt for equipment that would work for him. Do I really want to go through trying to find which style will work to both keep him chaste and not stop him from having basic use of his penis for peeing and not give him problems with liquid which can not be washed out. I see this as a big problem in that the skin would be very irritated.

Second, the problem of him asking to be let out of the chastity. Is it for show because he wants to play the game where I tell him he is stuck in it or does he really need to be let out of it. It is one thing if his cock were showing signs of being raw/ rubbed or etc by the cage. There could be other problems with his plumbing or the balls that do not show but are serious as well.

So, a guy who has had experience and can at least not be an idiot about the whole thing would be someone I would try it with. Otherwise I feel I am getting in over my head and that is not something I like.

The When I read posts by men who talk about how great it would be to be locked up for a year I seldom take them seriously. In far too many cases these men have no real experience at all. It is just the fantasy that they think will be so great. They think finding a Domme to do this with is all they really need. That puts a lot on the Domme and, I feel, for the sub himself this is really stupid. There has to be a limit to what the Domme is expected to know. At some point a man must be responsible for his own safety and health. For myself, there is only so much I can read about versus having real experience.

Anyway, this is a long comment. Thank you for leaving comments about chastity in my blog. The man I am considering (as a whole relationship not just play) is interested in this. I am too. But, I have reservations. To me, the best plan is an entire cage which I can lock him into and let him out again. Not a cock cage but a full body cage. Much safer, unless there is a fire or something drastic. (Which I would have prepared for by having a key in his reach, with the understand it is not to be used). Safe play is very important to me.

Is part of male chastity making them want it even more when you aren't letting them have any? It is just the kind of wickedness that appeals to me. Plus, chastity is a double edged sword. (If you want to have sex with them, you can't really keep them locked up and unavailable).

So is the real fun for the Domme in keeping them in chastity for extended periods of time or in giving them temptation and hope that it won't last very long?

Then Feministing puts the whole thing in another perspective. That's one I need time to think about when it's not late at night and I'm thinking about getting to bed.

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I should be meeting a new sub next week, someday. I think I will call him Blue Balls. It's kind of a pretty name, makes me think of bluebell flowers, and other things that can be blue.

Sometimes being a Domme is like being a fem sub. We are both spoiled, just in different ways, more like different directions. I tell BB all kinds of fun things I'd enjoy doing when we chat on Gmail's Chat feature. I know he is hard up and I love it when he types about it into the chat. Knowing he is hard just makes me build up the scenario, come up with more naughty ways to torment him. Most of it makes me laugh, even while it makes me want him here to suck on my breasts, knead them and suck them while I tell him all the other ideas I have to torment him. Writing the ideas into chat with him is a lot of fun. It stirs me to yet more creative impulses.

I don't know how the reality will go. The chat is simple, text to text. It is never that simple face to face. Or, if we get past face to face, everything is more complicated when the intimacy increases for body to body. I do want the romance and the courtship. I've had little of either from past men I married or dated. To give credit, my ex husband was the most romantic. We had begun as friends over a long period of time. We are still friends now, it's a relationship that is still healing I think. But, I'm glad it is healing. We had too much that was good to let it become like some dreadful disease.

The new sub and I should meet next week, a first meeting so I am both hoping for good things and yet cautious from past less than great experiences with men I have met from online sources. I think I will call him BB, just to make him blush. After all, BB can be other things, like Boob Boy. I will know it is Blue Balls, he can be allowed to think it is Boob Boy, or something else. Let him think I'm not really evil. I know that I can be, but not right away. True evilness takes some warming up. Yet, it will be worth the trip. At least for one of us.

Be honest, what is the point of a man having an orgasm really? Once he does all the real fun is over. Shouldn't all boys wait until their orgasm will at least amuse their Domme? That's how it seems to me. Poor BB. I don't know if he really does know that the fantasy is fun while it is a fantasy. But the reality is going to be quite different. No wonder male subs have to sign contracts. It is a good idea to have something on paper that the Domme can bring out to remind him that all of this is what he signed up for. How wicked to make him sign it before he experiences the reality.

This clip from the Cosmo post about Blue Balls just has to be repeated:

In case you were wondering, it's called blue balls because the blood that's been in the scrotum for a while loses oxygen and can give the appearance of a bluish tinge -- although it sounds like something guys came up with to express just how sad they are that they can't come!

Help for blue balls from Scarleteen and Suite101.

Happy (belated) Valentines Day

I noticed I had lost a button on my sweater. Gave me kinky thoughts about taking a photo and sending it to Stephen who I have been talking to since meeting through CollarMe in December. We have not met yet but I began this blog with the idea of keeping ideas and thoughts here to share with him later if things work out. There is something very stimulating (for me) about taking photos of myself like this. I don't pass them around like business cards or anything. But, it is fun for me and now I will be thinking about reading some erotica later tonight.