For those who are confused... this is not serving her. This is a professional/ paid FemDom at work.

How can you tell? For one thing, the biggest thing... how is this serving HER? She's wearing uncomfortable boots, her butt is hanging out and she's spending her time standing over him doing nothing when she could be enjoying a nice coffee and a good book.

This is so not right. When will they ever get it?

I would have a man drink from a doggie bowl on the floor. But, it would be his own personal doggie bowl. It would not be shared with any other animal. I would not be standing over him, uncomfortable. I might wear boots, but I have a great pair of winter boots that I actually do  like to wear. I'd wear whatever I happened to be wearing that day. If I wanted to change it would not be something showing my ass. How dignified is that?

I'd likely have him make coffee for me before he stripped down. You don't really want a naked man in the kitchen. Probably violates health codes of some kind. I'd pull over a chair at the very least. Actually, you wouldn't need to stand over him, just move him to where you want to be sitting. Bring along a long handled object, like a broom, you can use to prod him with if he slacks off or slows down in his task.

Most of all, this should not be about you (the FemDom/ Domme) standing there like a paid escort or call girl. He says he wants to serve you, so make sure he does. When he finishes his water bowl he can load up the dishwasher, hand wash the pots and pans and then take out the trash. Any other chores he can do for you? He should be the one to ask. If you have to remind him... well, if you're holding a whip or have a spanking implement you might as well get some use out of it. At your own discretion of course, you don't use a whip if you don't know what you are doing with it.

Don't spend time on punishing him with a spanking if that isn't what you want to do. Instead, let him serve you. Did watching him lick clean the doggie bowl turn you on? Then (if his mouth suits you) let him lick you next. This is one more reason to just have water in the doggie bowl, that way you do know a bit about where that tongue has been lately.

Later, he can finish the night by turning the radio on and locking up the house before he lies down on the rug in the bedroom like a good doggie.

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My comment:

I'm not a dominant man and I probably won't be reading 50 Shades of Grey. I'm a dominant woman and I write my own erotica. I'd like to find a man who is a gentleman in the bedroom and a romantic man in the parlour. I'd like a man who could have dinner with my family then come home with me, kiss me without being slobbery then politely ask for sex, like a good boy.

You're Not the Only One

What's so terrible about being a virgin that people feel ashamed of it and think they have to get rid of their virginity?

If you are a middle aged or adult virgin, you aren't alone.

The general stereotype is to think any one still a virgin after age 30 or even 40 and beyond

• must hate the opposite sex,
• be very frigid or have sexual hang ups,
• be very religious,
• be gay or
• be so ugly no one will touch them.

It doesn't occur to people that some middle aged people just haven't found anyone that interesting, attractive or desirable. …more

He wanted everything to be perfect. After endless months of searching, hoping and personal ads... he had found a Domme. A real Domme. A woman who understood his needs, a woman he could serve. A woman who didn't expect to be paid for letting him serve her.

One minute before the hour he unlocked his front door, stripped off his clothes and knelt down at the door. He had already measured out the distance he needed to be so the door wouldn't knock into him when she opened it. He trembled in anticipation. Would she use all his toys? Maybe she'd lock him in chastity tonight, their first night even? How exciting that would be. So under her control, deep into submission and so fully at her mercy.

At exactly the hour the door opened, there she was... but, this wasn't right! Where was the black leather? Where were the stiletto heels? She wasn't even holding a whip. It looked like just a purse... a brown, beat up looking purse. Was she going to change now that she was here?

He said nothing, just bowed low, pushing his nose into the carpet. Subservient, properly submissive. Waiting for her command. …more

I don't have any real interest in swallowing anything connected with male orgasm. I have a lot of negative feelings concerning the whole cock sucking deal.

First, this post is in reply to Blow You? Blow Me on Sex Kitten. Her end point was that men should not expect more from their partners than they are willing (or actively giving) themselves. I agree.

But, I don't agree with the whole experience of cock sucking and I sure won't be swallowing it.

From my early days as a young woman I would hear my brother and his friends calling each other and even people they really did want to piss off, cock suckers. It was not a phrase they used in a nice way. They were intentionally being nasty. A cock sucker was not someone well thought of. It was not a profession to work towards, etc.

I have not built up a better impression of the whole cock sucking thing in the years since then. Men don't admire and think well of women who suck cocks. They don't call them pretty, cute things - they call them cock suckers and other terms which just don't sound complimentary.

Think about it... would you want to be a cock sucker?

So, no, I'm not delightedly rushing off to buy the T-shirt.

However, I have done the act, more than once. It did please me to please the man in my life at the time. In each case this man did not really reciprocate. I was left feeling kind of used and dirty like a snot rag (another phrase from my brother and his friends). I didn't enjoy that feeling. I didn't long for a repeat of it.

Most of the women I know (only one exception) thinks cock sucking is dirty and nasty. Ladies don't do that sort of thing. If they do they don't broadcast it. It's like a dirty little secret. I have never told my Mother I've done it. I don't know if I have ever put it on paper or spoken the words to admit to doing it ever, before now. It feels like a dirty little secret, right up there with bestiality.

Women are supposed to keep clean, tidy and pretty. We don't let men spit, pee, come or any other bodily functions on us. That would be dirty and gross. That would make us dirty, in reality and gross, at least in our own minds. Men seem to see it that way too. They claim they want women to suck their cocks, to swallow and to let them come on our faces, etc. But, there is still the feeling of nice girls and sluts. Don't let anyone tell you that's just an old fashioned thing. It's not.

So, in the long run, I see no real advantage to becoming a cock sucker. The issue of swallowing is just not going to happen. There will not be any coming on me either. Not unless I get to shoot something of my choice at him first.

As the Sex Kitten post concludes too: Why have I never, ever heard a woman complain about her male partner not swallowing when he licks her pussy? Just something else to think about.