Originally posted to Sex Kitten.net.

I found these wearable vagina panties while reading a post about women having surgery to their vagina and labia to change how they look – bigger labia, less labia, tighter vagina, and so on.

Yes, the panties are designed for males who want female parts. These panties are in demand enough that people are making these panties and asking $100 and up for them. Would this make a male feel like a woman? I don’t know, I’m not in that position. Would I make a male wear these, as forced feminization? No.

To force someone to be a woman goes against the grain for me. Why force someone to be something I am? Doesn’t that seem a bit backwards. As if being a woman was something so awful you have to force people to be women.

Yet there are men who call themselves male submissives who claim to want forced feminization. I wonder about the women who do this. Not the women who are paid to do it, that’s just a job, a service they perform for pay. They don’t need a personal interest, an opinion or a desire to do it. They just do it and collect their money.

I wonder about the women who are FemDoms as a personal thing, outside of getting paid for it. What do they think about forced feminization. Do they do it just to please him, give him what he wants? Well, that’s not what being a FemDom is about. Who is the one leading in that case? If there is a woman FemDom who actually liked forced feminization I’d like to know her thoughts about it. Why or how does it interest her.

I do see it working as a humiliation thing. That I understand, to a point. But, what does she (the FemDom) get out of that? I might give him frilly panties to wear, knowing the frills will be bulging around him and look odd when he is fully dressed.

However, something like the wearable vagina… I don’t want him to be a woman. I’m a woman. I want my sub male to be a man even when he’s wearing frilly panties under his suit.

Originally posted as my introduction to my site, Divorce Darling.

I’m not a professional Domme and don’t want to become one, though I admit the money is tempting. I’m a writer. I write fiction and non-fiction. Sometimes I like to draw too.

I think the biggest challenge in having a FemDom relationship is keeping it that way. If she isn’t having fun and loving what she is doing most likely the focus has gone back to his needs/ wants instead of theirs (as a couple).

Men want to meet Dommes, real women who enjoy Dominating men. However, men don’t seem to understand that we are real women, people too. We have interests, thoughts and lives that have nothing to do with tying men up, teasing and tormenting them. (As much fun as all that is).

I’m writing this blog for myself mainly. I used to write a weekly column called Bait & Switch for Adult BackWash. (BackWash is closed now). I would write about sex, kinky stuff, fetishes, online dating, romance, passion and sensuality. I also wrote about my views as a woman who likes treating men as my own personal sex toy.

Don’t think that I’m some experienced professional, cause I’m not. I never have been. I’m a woman you could meet any day and pass without suspecting I was anything but someone’s sister/ daughter/ aunt. Just think about that… how do you know you didn’t see me today? I’m a nice girl, a romantic. I tend to be quiet and polite and I’m thinking a lot behind my glasses. I’m the woman your Mother would like you to bring home.

Isn’t that ironic?

I like teasing men while they can’t do much about it. I like the idea of keeping a man in a cage or tied hand and foot to the frame of the doorway, or told to wear a bib in the restaurant. I like having a man who does it all, not because he has to, not because he could not escape the bondage or just say No, but because he wants to. I like a man who is strong, independent, intelligent and submissive (but only to me). I’m not into sharing quite that much.

I like a home made brand of D/s. Where instead of spending money on toys from a catalogue I am creative and use my own ideas and imagination. I really like having something ordinary become extraordinary fun in a kinky way. It gives you a whole new outlook each time you open a drawer in the kitchen, especially that junk drawer with all the odds and ends.

I also like writing fiction, Femdom fiction. I’ve won 2nd place in an erotica writing contest run (in part) by Gloria Brame but that was several years ago. Still, it was quite an honour to me at the time. I have some of my erotic fiction online, even though BackWash is not available, I had another source previous to my work there. I’ve been published in The Dominant’s View at least twice. (Looks like that’s gone now too).

Anyway, this is as much information as I feel like giving away right now.

Comments from the original post:

westfal May 8, 2013 you sound wonderfully normal and real tg!

Ayesha June 17, 2013 “Men want to meet Dommes, real women who enjoy Dominating men.” Yeah right! That’s what the creeps are saying. Here’s reality. Men want to meet submissive women who are willing to ‘dominate’ them on their terms.

Femdom is only for born slaves and dominas, Laura. We have it in our DNA. No escape possible.

Tempting Tuesday - The word this week is caught.

The whole point of the chase is the catch or being caught. When you play with a partner, do you prefer to be the one doing the catching or the one who is being caught?

I think submissives generally like being caught. That feeling of being chased, of being wanted enough for someone to give chase and then the actual being caught and kept.

Does this mean Dommes only like chasing and catching? No.

I think everyone likes being caught. To have that primal feeling of being valued enough to be worthy of the chase. Then to be cared for enough to be celebrated when you are caught.

Originally posted to Sex Kitten.net.

This young lady is a real doll. I found her on Etsy, a shop called Shayne of the Dead.

I like her. She got me thinking about keyholders and those for whom the key is being held. When men read or fantasize about male chastity and wearing a chastity device, they skip so much of the sweet reality.

I’m not even getting into the comfort of wearing such a device or the ease of use when in the bathroom, or even when changing clothes. I’m sure there are other situations which (being a woman) I haven’t even thought of myself.

No, dear little men, I’m thinking about the terrible inconvenience of a keyholder who deliberately (not in any playful or teasing way at all) withholds your key. Perhaps she’s just a bitch, as so many men would like to say and leave themselves the poor blameless innocents. Let’s leave Fantasy Island and just accept the fact that there is shared blame and you might have gotten into this whole chastity and keyholder thing a bit too soon.

Now, here you are, locked up and no keyholder in sight. She isn’t even taking your calls, answering your emails and the hand written letter you sent (pleading for mercy) came back with “return to sender” written on it in thick, red ink.

Did you keep a back up key? What are the chances that you wanted the full experience of being a total submissive at her mercy, unable to do get out of your chaste bondage without her co-operation?

Wasn’t that stupid of you? You may be thinking that now. While you debate the ways to escape your predicament… let me lend you my time machine. It works on the web and will ship itself back to me the moment you have gone back in time and made sure you kept a copy of that very important key for yourself.

Of course, time machines are still science fiction. Sad, isn’t it?

If you are considering going into chastity, wearing a chastity device, proceed with caution and get out your common sense. Even if you know your keyholder very well (even if you tell your Mother some story and get her to keep your key, thinking it is a storage locker or something more ordinary) a key can be lost. A key can be misplaced or taken by someone else who doesn’t know what the key is for and decides it’s just junk. A keyholder can change her (or his) mind about you. So often people don’t want to face someone in that situation so they try to pretend you have just gone away, for a long walk off the planet. However it happens, your key may become lost to you.

Don’t let this situation happen to you. You can stash a back up key in your freezer where you will have to thaw it out. You can tape your key under your bed or to the back of your closet. Put it inside a sealed envelope to make yourself pause before just opening it for anything but an urgent reason. Use a balloon and push your key inside, you don’t even have to inflate the balloon. It will take more effort to get the key out if the balloon is not inflated. You can find other ways to hide a back up key from yourself, or make it less accessible.

What really matters is not being that guy who has to find a way to remove his cock from a chastity device by asking for outside help, like the hospital Emergency room, or a locksmith or friends who have more knowledge of tools but will never let you forget where their tools have been and the favour they did for you that day.

Some day I’d like to be a keyholder. I nearly was but we decided the distance was too far for safety and the fact that we wouldn’t see each other often enough to really have fun with it. I’d enjoy being an evil keyholder. It would be fun to let him think the key was gone or I’d postpone our meeting time for an extra day… all sorts of little adventures in keyholding. But, I do wonder about the losing the key thing. I’d want to have a really good back up plan myself if I were the keyholder.

If you look for male sex robot on Google you get a LOT of females. But, if you take the time to weed through you do find the odd male robot. Most are not what you are looking for (not if you are me).  Most male robots are military/ gamer types. Not the sort designed to play with the female body. It's disappointing, but it does show how much sex is still slanted to men.

It bugs me how hard it is to find anything for the Dom woman. It is all set up to appeal to men. Whether it's gay male porn, women's porn for men (because real women don't read that trashy jerk off stuff), lesbian women fiction and photography usually shows two women professionals and they don't seem to have much in the way of a real connection - unless their piercings get tangled. I don't know many women who like hard core stuff the way men do. Even the FemDom photos and fiction online are geared to the male perspective. She wears her FemDom uniform, she oversees his "service" to her yet she never actually gets anything out of it, beyond the payment due at the end of her performance.

Back to the sex robots. I think, the best I can hope for (in any kind of reality) are little robots. While the sex robots for men are full sized with breasts large enough to tip them over. The sex robots for women will be compact, something you can easily keep in your purse, your luggage if you go away for awhile. You could even stash these little guys in an empty coffee cup and walk around with it all day, no one suspecting anything.

The moral of this post is that women like sex too. We may not be as vocal about it. But, that's because nice girls don't talk about sex. Actually, nice girls are taught to show no sign of needing anything at all for themselves. But, that's a lie. We have needs and wants, desires and passions and all out crazy kinks and fetishes too. I suspect we are going to have to come up with our own sex robots though.