Is it surprising that a Domme has fantasies where she isn't in charge? I don't think so. We are all one human being, with a balance of things and feelings and beliefs, which make us a whole. If I could find an ideal man he would have a bit of a twisted side and share some of my fantasies, or at least understand - or at the very least take a week long business trip so I can enjoy my fantasies without explaining anything.

I tried another personals post on Fetlife. Will see if I hear from anyone before I decide I don't like having a personals post up and rip it down again.  I was already thinking to not post it at all. But, it is up. Maybe I will even hear from someone sincere. That would be a pretty big freaking miracle I think. I'm so disappointed/ discouraged with the whole thing of trying to find a man who really knows what it is to serve a woman and want to do so.

Is it possible to meet a male sub who is sincere about wanting a D/s relationship?

A D/s relationship - to me this means the relationship is a big part of the whole thing. If I wanted to play around and not care who I'm with I could buy sex toys and never need a human being at all. That isn't what I want. I want a man to date, to talk to, to go places with, to have fun, to really get to know and enjoy all kinds of interests: art, nature, green living, old buildings, reading, writing, road trips, bondage, teasing, domestic discipline, and assorted other interests both D/s and non-adult.

If you happen to be a male living in the Barrie, Ontario area, about the age of 45-50 apprx. and single AND you understand a D/s relationship is more than toys, fetishes and kinks- send me a note. Tell me about you.

Non-smoker would be a big bonus. Also, if you have a problem with BBW women there just won't be any point to meeting for more than coffee and conversation.

Last of all, for pity's sake! don't send me a note if you don't want an actual relationship with the idea of having something long term if it works out. I am not interested in owning a sub I don't know and care about. I'm not interested in casual sex or play dates or what ever else they call it these days. I am a woman and a Domme, I will not settle for someone who thinks they can treat me like a blow up doll.

I began looking into the idea of Domme women and submissive Daddys after finding a group for this on Fetlife: Dominant little girls/ submissive daddies. I looked online for more about this idea but came up with very little. The best I found so far is a post on Miss Violette Thorngate.

... the dynamic of a manipulative young girl in control and an older man under her pretty little thumb can be SO exciting!

I also just received a sweet belated Valentine from someone, reminding me that my daddy/Girl role model is the delicious Claudia from Interview with the Vampire. She plays the innocent to manipulate the older men in her life to her advantage, by turns seducing and drawing their pity, threatening and indulging them. One of the best moments for me is the scene in the film when her piano teacher scolds her with a rap on the knuckles for a misplayed piece. She turns to look at him in a sort of incredulity. The next cut has her happily playing the piece perfectly, for her own pleasure, and the teacher slumping over, drained of his life force.

This isn't how I see the submissive Daddy relationship going. The manipulating isn't my thing at all. My games are more along the lines of Scrabble.

Still working on this idea. Trying to understand what makes it appeal to me and how it fits into my Domme philosophy of life. I do know it has a lot more to do with romance and courtship than manipulation.

I edited out my location, that's just a bit too much to put out there. I am back to looking, less bright eyed and optimistic each time I try again. But, I do seem to keep picking myself up and trying again.

I want romance and bondage. I want to find a man who sincerely wants a relationship and D/s as a lifestyle. Not 24/7 - that would be too restrictive for me. I am my own person and I like having time to be me.

A man who is about my age (not much younger or older). A man who is large in height and not a thin guy either. I'm not thin and a bigger guy suits me. Must be local to the area. I've tried long distance and it does not work.

I know what being a Domme means to me and I won't be interested in any sub who tries various methods of topping from the bottom. Sharing ideas is one thing, giving me a grocery list of wants is another thing.  I don't like messy or extreme stuff. I like doing things my own way and in my own style. Teasing and coming up with new ways to torment a poor subbie is what I enjoy.

I do not want a guy who is desperate to serve. I want someone who stands on his own two feet, has outside interests and enjoys life. I want someone I can spend time with whether we hang out with coffee, take a road trip, or babysit my sister's kids. I'm a bit quiet and a bit  of an old fashioned nice girl. I'm also very creative and I like trying and learning new things.  What matters is intelligence, humour, grooming and spelling does count too.

If you are a single male sub in the area, in the 40-something age range send me a note. However, if you just want something female to screw, save your time and buy a blow up doll. 

Possibly it's because I love being touched, especially my back and breasts, but I have an interest in lactation as a fetish. I don't know if I would really want to do this. Sounds like a lot of work before there are any results. A lot of work to keep it flowing and a lot of work if you have to lactate every few hours.  That would especially make it into a chore or a duty, which isn't something I'd enjoy being stuck with on a regular basis.

Also, I don't think I could feel the same about a guy who sucked my breasts like an infant. In reality I don't see a male submissive as a child or lesser being that I need to guide through life and whatever else. I want someone who is on par with myself. He just likes to do what I tell him and get stuck in the odd cage now and then.