You're Not the Only One

What's so terrible about being a virgin that people feel ashamed of it and think they have to get rid of their virginity?

If you are a middle aged or adult virgin, you aren't alone.

The general stereotype is to think any one still a virgin after age 30 or even 40 and beyond

• must hate the opposite sex,
• be very frigid or have sexual hang ups,
• be very religious,
• be gay or
• be so ugly no one will touch them.

It doesn't occur to people that some middle aged people just haven't found anyone that interesting, attractive or desirable. …more

He wanted everything to be perfect. After endless months of searching, hoping and personal ads... he had found a Domme. A real Domme. A woman who understood his needs, a woman he could serve. A woman who didn't expect to be paid for letting him serve her.

One minute before the hour he unlocked his front door, stripped off his clothes and knelt down at the door. He had already measured out the distance he needed to be so the door wouldn't knock into him when she opened it. He trembled in anticipation. Would she use all his toys? Maybe she'd lock him in chastity tonight, their first night even? How exciting that would be. So under her control, deep into submission and so fully at her mercy.

At exactly the hour the door opened, there she was... but, this wasn't right! Where was the black leather? Where were the stiletto heels? She wasn't even holding a whip. It looked like just a purse... a brown, beat up looking purse. Was she going to change now that she was here?

He said nothing, just bowed low, pushing his nose into the carpet. Subservient, properly submissive. Waiting for her command. …more

I don't have any real interest in swallowing anything connected with male orgasm. I have a lot of negative feelings concerning the whole cock sucking deal.

First, this post is in reply to Blow You? Blow Me on Sex Kitten. Her end point was that men should not expect more from their partners than they are willing (or actively giving) themselves. I agree.

But, I don't agree with the whole experience of cock sucking and I sure won't be swallowing it.

From my early days as a young woman I would hear my brother and his friends calling each other and even people they really did want to piss off, cock suckers. It was not a phrase they used in a nice way. They were intentionally being nasty. A cock sucker was not someone well thought of. It was not a profession to work towards, etc.

I have not built up a better impression of the whole cock sucking thing in the years since then. Men don't admire and think well of women who suck cocks. They don't call them pretty, cute things - they call them cock suckers and other terms which just don't sound complimentary.

Think about it... would you want to be a cock sucker?

So, no, I'm not delightedly rushing off to buy the T-shirt.

However, I have done the act, more than once. It did please me to please the man in my life at the time. In each case this man did not really reciprocate. I was left feeling kind of used and dirty like a snot rag (another phrase from my brother and his friends). I didn't enjoy that feeling. I didn't long for a repeat of it.

Most of the women I know (only one exception) thinks cock sucking is dirty and nasty. Ladies don't do that sort of thing. If they do they don't broadcast it. It's like a dirty little secret. I have never told my Mother I've done it. I don't know if I have ever put it on paper or spoken the words to admit to doing it ever, before now. It feels like a dirty little secret, right up there with bestiality.

Women are supposed to keep clean, tidy and pretty. We don't let men spit, pee, come or any other bodily functions on us. That would be dirty and gross. That would make us dirty, in reality and gross, at least in our own minds. Men seem to see it that way too. They claim they want women to suck their cocks, to swallow and to let them come on our faces, etc. But, there is still the feeling of nice girls and sluts. Don't let anyone tell you that's just an old fashioned thing. It's not.

So, in the long run, I see no real advantage to becoming a cock sucker. The issue of swallowing is just not going to happen. There will not be any coming on me either. Not unless I get to shoot something of my choice at him first.

As the Sex Kitten post concludes too: Why have I never, ever heard a woman complain about her male partner not swallowing when he licks her pussy? Just something else to think about.

I've linked to Mariel Clayton, doll photographer with a subversive sense of humour before. Tonight I found Nancy Farmer, artist and doll photographer with a kinky sense of humour.

I posted a few links for Kinky Barbie to Sex Kitten tonight. (Have you read the posts in Laura's Boudoir there before?) The first link I found, which gave me the inspiration to look for more, was a Flickr group for Kinky Barbie and Friends. Have a look at OOAK Barbies too.

It was at Domi Dollz that I discovered Nancy Farmer, her art, photography and her Etsy Fetishdollies shop and a second shop on DaWanda.

About the Fetishdollies:

This is part of a little photography project I've been doing for some time. All rather silly, and some of it is quite indecent, but it keeps me off the streets! There is no trick photography in any of this, just patience and handmade accessories. The subject matter varies from merely suggestive, to downright rude but all, I hope you will find, done with a sense of humor.

International Day Against Homophobia and Transphobia

Is this really about protecting gay rights or is this just an excuse to bash another group of people? To me this is a giant step backwards when it comes to our rights and freedoms in general. Are we no longer allowed to have our own opinion? Do we have to all agree with the popular choice? Are we going to end up throwing rocks at people who don't agree with homosexuality now?

This is crazy. Totally unacceptable!

Whatever you feel or think about the issue of homosexuality is irrelevant - should we not have the right and the freedom to express our opinion without being judged this way? Where is your free speech and free thought now?  You now have no right to disagree, no right to your own opinion and your own freedom of choice is gone. This cause is even supported by the government! I think this is too much. The government is supporting an event which is all about taking away our free speech and free choice. Think about that before you jump in with both feet.