My Mother likes to drive around looking, studying, homeless people and drug addicts wandering around in the town/city here. I don't understand. My first instinct is to avoid them. I don't seek them out for conversations. I don't feel hugely sorry for them or really want to know the story of their life. It is enough to manage my own life with its ups, downs and sideways.
Often, like now, she will just go off in the car and park on the main street where the homeless drug addicts and whatever else they are, gather. Here it is right at the intersection where McDonalds, payday loans, a pot store (sold in stores here in Ontario) and a pharmacy handing out free drugs for addicts (also currently an Ontario thing), are. Handy, one stop shopping for them.
If we are out shopping for groceries, something she needs from the hardware store, etc. I will be in the car too. Mom doesn't walk so well these days so I'm there to do the shopping, the walking around part. Almost every time she goes for a look at her "homies and druggies" taking me along with her, like it or not. I don't. I don't like anything about it.
Why do some people have this fascination with the down and out? Also known as street people, but you could assume that was anyone walking along a street. It isn't about people watching, or it is a specialized version of it.
If I look into it I may not like what I find, so I'm putting it off.
Possibly a group which came about over the judgmental attitude people have for history these days. I'm glad more people are thinking about this. You can't rewrite history, its already in the past. Everything in the past is defenseless against the present and how it is perceived and judged by current and changing ideals. Its not fair to use what is popular or expected now while viewing what was popular and expected then. It really can't be done and it pollutes the history, the people and places that were.
There have been events, none listed as coming up, and podcasts.
At the Canadian Institute for Historical Education, we believe the past should be approached in all its complexity. Although we now look back from the present, the past existed on its own terms, not ours.
Our aim is to contribute to conversations about Canada’s historical figures, bringing context and candour when they are unjustly maligned or their contributions diminished, in order to promote a deeper understanding and richer appreciation of our shared past.
To ensure that the ‘renaming” of places reflects a fair and balanced treatment of our past and that relevant facts and context inform these decisions. We will work with historians to provide decision makers with easy access to relevant existing historical evidence and analysis, commission new research where it seems necessary, and act as a catalyst for a more informed understanding amongst all Canadians.
CIHE - Telling Canada's Stories
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If someone (your finance himself, not his family) is saying he hates you, pretty much blames you for what is happening, claims you do not support him when you feel you are doing your best... GET OUT!!! Save yourself. IF it works out for him - then - he can choose to come back to you. Meanwhile, you can not save him. This is something he can only do by himself, for himself. You can try to martyr yourself but NO ONE will thank you for it. Get out now, get your life back. This path is not at all sustainable for you. Save yourself! Give all your care to someone who wants it, wants YOU. You can not save this man. He is not even being nice or appreciating you. Yes, it will be very hard to leave, to break away from your past with him but for your own future you need to remove yourself from a situation that is likely to get worse. The only part of this you can control is YOU! Do yourself a favour, don't hang on hoping, get out before you feel even more grief and sadness. Having typed all that, I'm not expecting you will take my advice but I really hope you do, can. You can not save a man from himself, you can only save yourself and that is hard enough to do.
Wrote this comment to a woman on Facebook who thinks she can save a man she was set to marry (somehow). He is now very likely to die of liver failure due to alcohol abuse over many years. He is telling her he hates her, blaming her for where he is in his life, etc. You likely know the drill.
Will she save herself and get out from under this bad relationship? Not much chance is there. Women, some women, think they owe the world a favour, try to save people (especially men), and hopefully will at least live to regret it. Not all of them get out of these situations alive.
I think you can't save yourself from an abusive relationship without FIRST stopping your own self abuse. People/ women need to see their own self abuse in this and stop it. Women who flock to this kind of abuse are really abusing themselves. It is a very bad choice. Make a different one.
Whatever happened to The Prize Queen (Jennifer Valentyne) at CityTV in Toronto? She's now a content creator, previously a television personality and Toronto Argonauts cheerleader.
Described as a "Mom who loves home decor, cooking, entertaining & making people smile." She also has a Mother Daughter Date podcast.
Is there a Canadian television personality you especially remember? I've had so many pop into my mind as I write this but most are Ontario based because that's where I grew up watching TV.
I'm coming to think that caring about things (people, places, things in general) is a weakness. Maybe something like chocolate and the longing for something soothing, smooth and lush. I think that's too poetical. But, its the idea. Somehow we/ I think caring for things will bring me something good back. A feeling of having done well, or right, or good. Making the world a better place - but for who?
Caring for anything seems to be a trap. The things you care for will betray you in some way. Not always deliberately in a straight and easy to see line. But, along the way, your care will trap you and you will be abandoned. The things you care about will be thought useless baggage by others and eventually you will begin to feel let down by all of them. Not their fault, they are just things: books, art, collections, all of those things. The people will stop finding value in your caring and in yourself. You're old and should be invisible. Your care was useful at one time but now you're just in the way, lagging along like a weight, or a duty. The places you care about will go on without you. They will change, grow, die, without anything from you. Caring is costly, you lose power, energy and space.
Does any of this make sense? I don't think it matters because I'm an old woman now and my great super power is invisibility. I care you not.