Have you ever seen a birthday card for someone already deceased? I don't mean so recently that people still have a memorial sort of birthday for them. What about when it is your Father, long gone.

Today is my Dad's birthday. I forget how long ago he died, it has been about 15 years, possibly more. I can't give him a pretty or funny card. I didn't find any wise or witty quotes. Not a single birthday card found for the deceased.

Has no one else ever thought of this? I will see what I can think of. Nothing brilliant so far.

What would you write, draw, create as a birthday card for family or friends long dead?

When did you last write something by hand. I'd even count a grocery list because people just seem to use their phone for even that small thing now. I miss handwriting. I still send greeting cards with short notes. When I was younger I wrote long letters, on stationary, to my Grandmothers and their sisters. None of them are still around and these days my handwriting is not quite so elegant, or legible, but I do my best and send out cards to nephews and nieces around the holidays. Not just Christmas.

I have postcards and letters I exchanged with people around the world when I was a teenager. Some from the Grandmothers and relatives who travelled and send a card to my parents, or even myself. Some postcards I bought just because I like the historical photos of places I know or would like to know.

Paper doesn't last forever, but it lasts a good long time, barring fire or other disaster.

Write someone a letter, why not?

Research has shown that the general act of writing by hand can promote quite a few physical and mental benefits, from improving learning abilities to fostering a more positive outlook on life. And when it comes to writing that is used as a form of communication between two people, namely letters and postcards, the impact of such messages lasts far longer than any alternative version offered in our high-tech world. From the careful intentions of the sender to the value experienced by the receiver, no true match exists for this old-time, traditional means of conversation.

Source - 9 Reasons Not To Abandon The Art Of The Handwritten Letter

I found a list of "Things You Should Not Send Your Penpal" at CityMity Penpals Blog. It was a good, sensible list.

Not many people are writing letters which are mailed though the postal system these days. I did, years ago and I started thinking to do so again. If I find someone I'd enjoy writing with. We used to exchange more than letters, stamps or postcards. There were friendship books, mail art and anything else you could fit into an envelope without too much of it sticking up from the flatness of the envelope.

One thing which is risky to exchange, seeds, or anything plant based. Very sad. Some plant things are ok, usually something which has been processed. I think you can send tea bags, but not loose tea. So, you could exchange seeds if they came from a seed company, but not seeds you collected from your own garden, or seeds you found on a road trip, in the neighbourhood, etc.

Currency is ok if it is very small in value. Very small, being less than a few dollars. I used to like seeing what change/ coins looked like from other countries. I still have some of the coins I collected from penpals.

As a teenager with a tiny budget, my biggest expense for letter writing (other than postage) was stationery. I would shop for boxes of stationery and especially if it came in its own pretty box I could keep long after I had mailed the last of the writing paper and envelopes away. You can still find beautiful or customized/ unique paper and envelopes online but a lot of it seems too girly for me now. I may end up sticking with postcards for awhile.

Christmas cards are a big part of the holidays for me. I love to find a package of cards, with enough to send to everyone on my list, something creative and cheerful on the card front and a sentiment inside which isn't too sappy. It takes awhile to find the right box of cards, at the right price. I also like cards that can be mailed. Anything too decorative with fancy beads and gizmos won't be the right card to send through Canada Post. (Or any post offices, depending on where you mail them from). Bumpy cards are really only good for hand delivering yourself.

A Few Ideas for Signing those Cards

• Merry Yule. Hope you find something wonderful at the bottom of your Christmas stocking
• Seasons Greetings. Treat yourself to a great hot beverage over the holidays.
• Happy Holidays. It's only as cold as you think it is!
• Joys of the Season to you and your family.
• Be Merry, Bright and inspired this holiday season.
• Merry greetings and all that goes along with the holiday season.
• Happy holiday baking and snacking.
• Good will towards all men, women, children and animals too.
• Celebrate the season.
• Happy Christmas shopping, you can't give everyone a lump of coal after all.
• Merry Christmas. I'll be happy to pick up Santa's milk and cookies for him.
• Merry wishes for a great Christmas.
• Keep your holiday cheer all through to the New Year.

What you Need for Sending Out Christmas Cards

• Make a list of everyone you want to send a card to. Count how many cards you will need based on your list.
• Get the update on any addresses you aren't sure of. Look up postal codes if you are missing any.
• Make note of the stamps you will need to buy (for each location: Canada, the US, overseas in my case).
• Pick up your stamps early so you can get the Christmas stamps at the Post Office. Also, you can stick them on and mail them without waiting in a line for people mailing packages overseas later.
• It's an extra, but I like to have holiday stickers to add inside the card and/or on the outside of the envelope. Sometimes I draw my own Christmas doodles too.
• Another extra is a fancy pen for writing all those cards. I like to use a red pen, a holiday colour.

Keeping Religion out of Your Season's Greetings

I like to use Merry Yule, Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays, Season's Greetings - any variety of holiday salutations. But, lately the traditional greetings have come under fire, getting closer scrutiny. Christians don't want to keep the Christ out of Christmas. But, not everyone is Christian. Do you even know (for sure) which religion everyone on your Christmas card list believes in?

For instance, Jehovah's Witnesses don't celebrate Christmas. You might feel funny (or upset) if someone returns your Christmas card for religious reasons.

Unless you are sure about religious issues you should consider a neutral holiday greeting. Season's Greetings works well. Winter is a season after all. How can anyone, of any religion have an objection to a card wishing them a happy winter season?

Keep this in mind too when you buy (or make your own) Christmas cards. The illustration on the front could be something neutral, like snowmen, a Christmas village, etc. You can keep the issue in mind when you pick out the cards you want to send.

Of course, if you are sending cards just to family and friends you know very well, this whole thing won't be a problem.

Have you ever written a letter from Santa Claus in reply to your (or other/ any) children? J.R.R. Tolkien wrote letters and created illustrations which he mailed to his children - he wrote letters from Father Christmas.

The first letters were written to Tolkien's son, John, when he was just three. Tolkien wrote about his (Santa's) travels and adventures and gave the letter a stamps and postage marks which he drew himself. Sometimes the letter was written by Santa's secretary, an elf. Other characters and helpers came into the story through letters, like the North Polar Bear and his cubs,

The letters were written from 1920 to 1942 and were released posthumously by the Tolkien estate. Earlier editions did not have all the letters and drawings. In 1999 the book was republished with more of the original letters and drawings. The book was also changed from the first title: 'The Father Christmas Letters' to the current title ' Letters from Father Christmas'.

Canada Post will reply to all letters to Santa Claus. Send the letter to:

Santa Claus North Pole HOH OHO Canada

I never wrote a letter to Santa Claus when I was a child. I was the oldest of four and maybe just too serious in all the responsibility of looking after younger brother and sisters. Instead of being the one writing to Santa I wrote for Santa. I left letters from Santa with the milk and cookies and carrots for his reindeers. My parents took a nibble of cookies and I drank the milk (I still love milk). We put the carrots back in the fridge but left some of the green tops as evidence. Then I wrote a reply, pretending to be Santa Claus. Just a simple note, not a full, long winded letter. Santa was pretty busy after all.

Did you ever write a letter to Santa Claus?

• Yes, many times over the years.
• Yes, I still write a letter to Santa each Christmas.
• Yes, now I write letters to Santa with (my) children.
• No. I'm too naughty to hope for anything but a lump of coal anyway.
• No. I leave it for the children.
• No, but I do write replies from Santa Claus for the children.
• No. We don't celebrate Christmas.
• No. I'm a Scrooge.