It's too late to start at number one this year, but next year... Halloween will be back.

I love looking forward to Halloween all October. As the kids go back to school in September I'm thinking about Fall leaves, making apple pies and the first frost for pumpkins for Thanksgiving here in Ontario. In early October we have Thanksgiving, family gather, food is eaten and the freezer is full of homemade pies. Thanksgiving is one holiday along the road to Halloween at the end of October.

Before Halloween and after Thanksgiving we have two birthdays in my family. So I send birthday cards and sometimes we get together still for birthday family parties for my sister and my nephew, Zack. The October birthdays mark more time before the spookiness starts for the adventure of Halloween.

All these family events, occasions and holidays are on the October calendar. But, I've never had a calendar just to count down the days for Halloween. As much fun as the Christmas advent calendar is each year this Halloween "advent" calendar can be the warm up for the main event where happy children bring back a pillow case full of sweets, goodies and chocolate treats.

A Halloween calendar is practical too. A lot of preparation goes into that one day at the end of October. We plan costumes, we decorate the house for the last week or so and we figure out who is going to be handing out candy at the door and what kind of candy we will get this year. You could use each week of October for one of these things, then you would be all set for the big day when you open the last square on the day of Halloween.

Whether you make pumpkin pies or jack-o-lanterns with your Halloween/ Fall harvest pumpkins, afterwards they have that thick rind which will take time and some labour to compost.

If you have a compost bin or have the space to dig a hole in the garden itself, or you might have a compost pit... the pumpkin is better in your own compost than going to landfill.

Have a little respect for the Jack-O-Lantern and give him a green burial.

If you can not compost check around for someone else who does commercial composting. A local business or someone who does have a garden space or a local grower of just about anything. Bag up the pumpkin or pumpkins and donate them to a good home.

Clean it out

Don't leave decorations, tin foil, candle wax, inside the pumpkin. Keeping your compost to organic matter only makes it simpler later when you use the composted material in your garden. Anything like tin foil or a forgotten candle stub is just one more thing you will be picking out of the compost and soil mix later.

All the pumpkin guts, the stuff you scoop out when you carve a pumpkin, can be added to the compost too. Many people will do double duty and use the insides for pies or other holiday recipes. If you don't, the insides are already mushy and will compost easily along with your regular yard waste, kitchen scraps or anything else you routinely add to the compost heap.

Chop it up

If you start with a whole pumpkin you have a bigger job just because it's that much thicker and bulky. So begin by chopping it up. Even those miniature pumpkins used for decorations can be cut up.

Anything bulky and thick skinned like a pumpkin is going to be extra work for the fungus and little creatures who do the real work of reformatting in the garden. Give them a head start by breaking it up as much as you can.

If you're a bit lazy pull the pumpkins out into the yard, in an area which can get messy, and chop them with the shovel. Let them get a bit on the mushy side before you start so you don't have to break through the fresher, harder rind.

Remove the seeds

Take the seeds out, any seeds left in the compost will begin to sprout and grow a pumpkin patch. This could be a good thing if you have the space and don't mind pumpkins growing on top of your compost heap. But, you won't want all those seeds to germinate - that would take up too much space. If you have ever seen pumpkins growing you know how well they like to wind around and spread out.

Pumpkin seeds can be roasted in the oven as a snack. Just remove the pumpkin from them. Don't actually wash them but pull off the stringy stuff. Line a cookie sheet with parchment paper or tin foil, spread the seeds out over the tray. You can sprinkle salt on them, or something else that perks your imagination. When your oven is hot put the seeds in to roast. Check a recipe for roasting times and temperatures. I just peek through the glass and decide when they look done enough. They should be dry but not dried out like a mummy.

If you don't want to roast and eat the seeds you can still compost them. Roast them and then toss them into the compost. Or, grind them, anything which will prevent them from germinating in the Spring.

Begin the compost pile up

Gather leaves as you rake them, grass clippings, vegetable peels and such from the kitchen and line a hole with this lighter compost. Bury the pumpkin under more leaves and garden soil. You can add bone meal to help it all compost faster.

If you use a compost bin make sure the lid fits on to prevent rodents from getting in and leaving you a mess to clean up.

Look into composting with worms if you have the space in your backyard/ garden for a compost pit (a hole in the ground which you pile levels of compost material into).

You can also wrap the pumpkin compost in a black plastic bag which will help speed up the time it takes to rot. But, it won't smell pretty when you unwrap it to distribute your compost into the garden.

Picture a sunny day, maybe it's Autumn when things have cooled off from summer, leaves are changing colour on the trees and (if you're Canadian) you have been making plans for family coming over and Thanksgiving dinner. It's nice to have a quiet day to yourself amid all the planning, people visiting, phone ringing... why not take make a quick, simple picnic and spread a blanket in the cemetery to eat lunch and read a book?

Cemeteries and graveyards are only as creepy as you make them. In fact, they are well landscaped with history and greenery. They are quiet places - great for bird watching, writing, solitude and picnics. Stop by for a visit, even if you don't have relatives there.

Cemnic - Picnic in a cemetery. Usually thought of as a large, well landscaped place but it could also be a family graveyard in a rural area, anywhere really.

A Few Links

• A Halloween Picnic: In a Graveyard! | Halloween Alliance

• Full Life, Good Death: Cemeteries and Picnics

• Road Trip: Picnic and a Movie at the Hollywood Forever Cemetery

How to Have a Cemetery Picnic

Pick a Location

Most cemeteries are considered public property so you should have no problem with access - this means you are not trespassing. However, cemeteries may have scheduled hours. The gates may be closed due to the lateness of the day or they may be closed one day a week for maintenance and groundskeeping.

In the cemetery itself, find a place where you can be peaceful, away from traffic and foot traffic. Pick a picture perfect spot, where the grass isn't dry and prickly and the trees aren't dropping twigs or insects upon you.

Bring a Few Things

Bring a blanket to sit on, especially if the ground is damp or freshly mowed. Bring an extra blanket to curl up in if you get chilly. The cemetery tends to have a lot of open area so it can be breezy. Dress for the weather. Bring an umbrella if you might get rained on.

Of course, you need the picnic itself. If you have a whole picnic basket with plates, glasses and cutlery, great. If not, pack all the supplies you will need, don't forget napkins.

Sandwiches are traditional picnic fare but you could pack up anything you like as long as it's won't slop outside of the containers you pack it into. Try to avoid anything which will leave a lot of crumbs. Birds and other critters may eat the crumbs but the groundskeeper may not want to encourage all the various wildlife to come around.

Drinks in bottles which you can re-cap are a good plan. Insects will be attracted to sweet drinks but you can keep them from bothering you if you keep everything sweet contained.

You can get a quick picnic by going to the counter where they have sandwiches and salads at the grocery store, or a bakery, etc. Grab a container of cottage cheese or any other extras you like. If you didn't already pack knives, forks, spoons and napkins you can pick them up there too.

Bring a bag for trash. Usually you can find trash bins at the cemetery, if not, take it with you and find another place to dispose of the trash.

Respect the dead and the sensibilities of anyone who may also drop by to visit.

Don't leave behind trash. Don't drink too much. If you smoke (you probably shouldn't) but don't leave cigarette butts anywhere. Anything and everything you bring with you should also leave with you. The only exception being something you brought for relatives/ ancestors buried there. My brother and I will leave my Grandparents a Tim Horton's coffee when we visit them.

You might bring a laptop to work in the quiet. You might bring a radio to listen to some music. Watch the sound level, you want to keep it respectful. If you bring animals keep them leashed and clean up after them, pick up the poo and don't let them pee on any gravestones.

Don't take or disturb the flowers and decorations left by other families. Some people may have left money even. Resist temptation.

If you're visiting with family and making an occasion of it, bring a camera and take photographs.

If you're visiting family graves take some time to think about them. Talk about them if you're with family - talk to them if you're alone.

As you sit there, or while you walk around, take note of names on the stones. This is your local history. The families who lived in your town, built houses and businesses and had families are all right there. You could find out more about some of those old family names if you have an interest in local history.

Day of the Dead

Likely you have heard about the Mexican Day of the Dead, November 1st and 2nd. Family and friends gather to pray for and remember those who have passed on. In Mexico it is a national holiday.

Private altars are built, honoring the deceased, using sugar skulls, marigolds. Favourite food and drink of the departed are prepared and brought for visiting the graves with these gifts. Possessions of the dead are also brought and left for them.

Tomb Sweeping Day

The Qing Ming Festival (more commonly known as Tomb Sweeping Day) is a traditional Chinese holiday celebrating the arrival of Spring and remembering ancestors. Families visit grave sites the month following the Lunar New Year and days before the Spring Equinox.

The burning of incense and paper after the grave has been swept and maintained. Family members bow in front of the tombstone with incense in their hands and placing the incense upright in the ground. This is how they pay their respects to the dead.

Specialty shops sell paper versions of material possessions. One can buy paper houses, paper servants, even paper cell phones. It is believed material objects like these will still be needed in the afterlife so these paper versions are brought by the families.

After the paper offerings are burned, the food is divided up between family members. It's traditional to bring a whole roast pig to be offered at the tombs. Other food brought includes whole steamed chicken, white/yellow sugar cakes, oranges and other fruits. Rice wine is poured on the ground for the dead.

This picnic at the cemetery is a happy occasion of remembrance.

Is candy really the best part of Halloween? I think the best part is really dressing up in a costume and being out late at night, long after dark, trick or treating. It was exciting to be out in the dark, sometimes feeling your way around cars to walk up a driveway to the house where warm lights and candy are waiting.

My brother and sisters came along with me, we went out as a group. That was a lot of fun. We would all yell "trick or treat" together at each door. It didn't matter if we were cold, or if some of the candy was stuff we didn't like or how far we walked around the neighbourhood, it was all so much fun. I liked the dark especially. Halloween just wouldn't be the same in the daytime.

Happy haunting to all of you. Trick or treat!!!