If someone (your finance himself, not his family) is saying he hates you, pretty much blames you for what is happening, claims you do not support him when you feel you are doing your best... GET OUT!!! Save yourself. IF it works out for him - then - he can choose to come back to you. Meanwhile, you can not save him. This is something he can only do by himself, for himself. You can try to martyr yourself but NO ONE will thank you for it. Get out now, get your life back. This path is not at all sustainable for you. Save yourself! Give all your care to someone who wants it, wants YOU. You can not save this man. He is not even being nice or appreciating you. Yes, it will be very hard to leave, to break away from your past with him but for your own future you need to remove yourself from a situation that is likely to get worse. The only part of this you can control is YOU! Do yourself a favour, don't hang on hoping, get out before you feel even more grief and sadness. Having typed all that, I'm not expecting you will take my advice but I really hope you do, can. You can not save a man from himself, you can only save yourself and that is hard enough to do.

Wrote this comment to a woman on Facebook who thinks she can save a man she was set to marry (somehow). He is now very likely to die of liver failure due to alcohol abuse over many years. He is telling her he hates her, blaming her for where he is in his life, etc. You likely know the drill.

Will she save herself and get out from under this bad relationship? Not much chance is there. Women, some women, think they owe the world a favour, try to save people (especially men), and hopefully will at least live to regret it. Not all of them get out of these situations alive.

I think you can't save yourself from an abusive relationship without FIRST stopping your own self abuse. People/ women need to see their own self abuse in this and stop it. Women who flock to this kind of abuse are really abusing themselves. It is a very bad choice. Make a different one.

Idle, incremental, and clicker games, are they good or bad for people who obsess about things? Can an online game like Cookie Clicker help you beat the worse (less physically healthy) habit of chain smoking? Maybe. Luckily, I'm not a smoker so I can't test out that theory.

But, I thought I would post about my habit, limited obsession, mild addiction, with idle games. They probably are not healthy but, I do wear out some of my obsessive compulsive energy madly making progress while knowing it really doesn't matter at all. It also doesn't bother anyone, and its been a little secret I've kept hoarded to myself, until now.

What are idle, incremental or clicker games?

Any simple (usually fairly uncomplicated) game in which you increase your score in whatever format: points, gold, cookies, cows, candy... anything. I don't think any of these games have an ending. They just keep going with new additions, features, and fluff. Like so many Facebook games, you work to get stuff but you actually have nothing. Little image files you don't own, no copyrights. Why would anyone play such games, you might wonder. Try one and see. But, don't get addicted to it. Be careful, it sneaks up on you.

How about a list of Idle and Clicker Games to Become Madly Focused and Obsessed With:

• Cookie Clicker
• Candy Box
• Adventure Capitalist
• Crusaders of the Lost Idols

I know there are others. I've played others. These four seem to be the ones I've stuck with, or come back to and stuck with again, and again. At least two of them are also on the Steam site. Most of them are free to play, or to start playing.

An emoticon is a terrible thing to waste.

Emoticons (aka smileys) are fun, easy and add a lightness to any email or forum posts. When you want to add emotion, feelings or mood to your typed words you can just slip in an emoticon. :) They’re so simple to make, to remember and no-fuss.

Of course, some times we use a few too many. Sometimes we forget we aren’t typing a personal email and send an emoticon to the wrong person. Sometimes we send emoticons to people who just don’t like cute little text smileys. Then, there are the times we look back at the email we just sent and notice how many of those smileys are in there.

Too much of a good thing is still too much of a good thing. If you find yourself overindulging in emoticons – start cutting back.

Are you an Emoticon Use Abuser?

Not sure how many emoticons are too many? Ask the people you send your email to. Ask the people who read your posts on forums. (If you use an emoticon with every sentence you type – that’s really too much).

You find you also type a lot of other Internet shorthand, like LOL and ROFL.

Consider why you use so many smileys. Do you really need to explain or emphasize everything you write? Chances are the smileys have become a habit and you’ve forgotten how much simpler and uncluttered your text could be without them.

How to Control your Emoticon/ Smiley Addiction

Stop using smileys in emails or forums where you don’t know everyone well. Friends are more likely to enjoy the more personal styled communication.

Skip the smiley and actually write about your feelings and thoughts. Don’t leave people guessing or making assumptions. You may even find yourself connecting much better with people once you stop relying on smiley faces to tell them how you feel.

Instead of finding new and creative smileys to use, stick with just a few and use them sparingly. Standard emoticons like :) :D and :P should be plenty. Plus, these are standard enough for the average person to know rather than needing a special education on emoticons.

Replace the emoticons with something else. Go back to punctuation like exclamations points, question marks and dashes. But, don’t over use these either. One per sentence is enough.

Avoid emoticons and smileys when you have to write (or reply to) an email with any kind of bad news or a review of a person, product or service. You need to be professional at times like this and emoticons will not give that professional, competent impression of you.

One way to really stop yourself from over using emoticons is to remove them as a type of Internet shorthand. When you type a smiley follow it with a description in brackets. For instance :) (smile face). This will slow you down and help you see just how often you really are using emoticons.

• Five Reasons You Need to Break Your Emoticon Addiction
• Confessions of an Emoticon Addict
• Emoticonics Anonymous: A Five-and-a-Quarter Step Program