A romance isn't really a romance unless the damsel is thoroughly and properly rescued. Every good romance movie has that moment where the guy stands up for the girl. He takes her side and stays there, having her back. It gives me that warm feeling every time. That one moment is what keeps a good romance from being just a sappy movie.

Dermot Mulroney shines in this movie, as the guy who sticks by his woman, takes her side and doesn't back down when she needs to be told she's wrong either. He is no wimp. He does have a sexy smile you won't soon forget either.

I've watched this movie three times: once in the movie theatre when it was new and twice since then when I noticed it on TV. I'd still watch it a fourth time if it were on tonight.

The end question is... who would you buy as a date for a wedding (or just a date of your choosing)?

Kat, hires a man she has never met before to be her date for a wedding. Nick, an escort for hire, turns out to be worth all she pays. He looks good, he speaks well and there is something very leading man about him even when he is just paid to be there - you feel he actually does want to be there. There is more to the story of course, Turns out Kat's ex boyfriend is at the wedding. She wants him back. But, there's a little secret Kat's friends have been keeping from her...

In the end it all works out and Nick (Dermot Mulroney) stands by his woman.

If you could hire a really great guy to be your date for a family function... would you?

• Of course not, I'm already married/ with a really great guy.
• No, I can barely ask a guy out on a regular date.
• No, he wouldn't be a "nice" guy if he can be paid for that way.
• Yes, I might.
• Yes, I'd be tempted to show off a great catch, just for once.
• Yes, it could be fun and only one day after all.

The Rain at Night by Darla Darling

I love the rain at night.

The sky is so dark and slick looking. Just a little thunder and lightening. The big storm has passed and now the rain just soaks down from the sky.

I like the raindrops running down your bare skin. You’re so white in some places.

Your hair is plastered to your scalp and you are wet right through now. I bet you’re cold too.

“Pirouette boy!” I call out to you.

Putting your arms over your head you turn a circle around. I can see the mud squishing between your toes.

“On your tippy toes, like a ballerina!”

“Now hop a bit, put a bit of a skip into it!”. I laugh quietly. There is humiliation and then just plain meanness. You won’t like it if I’m laughing at you. But, there isn’t a lot sexy about a naked man hopping in the rain. The rain itself though…. I love the rain at night.

You’re cold, wet and I think your lips look on the blue side of pale. Another minute…. but not more than that.

I pull a hot towel out of the dryer and bring it with me out into the rain. I get a few photographs of the rain, the darkness and your wet skin. This is the turn on for me. Not your suffering, or your humiliation. Those are the things you want. I wanted the sensation of the rain, the sensuality of the drops running down your skin, through your hair and your breath in the night sky.

I’m quick, snap, click and a small adjustment of your pose for a last photo of your wet face up close.

I wrap you in the warm towel and lead you to the sliding glass door and the heat and light of the indoors.

I stay outside, by myself and play in the rain. I photograph the sky, up there far into the darkness. How far can the camera see? How many raindrops will be in the photo, captured in that blink of a lens?  I want to catch the rain on film before it’s all gone.

You come out, all dry and warm now. You’re wearing your rain coat this time and under it I know you will be dressed in your soft flannel workshirt and worn jeans. Your feet are in Wellingtons now, shiny with rain.

I love your smile as you wrap me up in a big hug and the worn, old quilt from our bed.

“Come inside now.” You say. Your voice is soft, almost a whisper for a man. It’s sexy and you’re warm and sexier now too. I don’t mind leaving the rain behind.

Originally posted to Sex Kitten, October, 2014.  Hot Flash Fiction Friday: The Rain at Night

It's hard to find a good, big, handsome man.

Fat Chicks Want More

I'm over 40... actually over 45 if you get technical. I'm a large sized woman, BBW (yes, I do think a woman can be big and beautiful). I'm divorced, which isn't bad as a drawback, but I can't quite see it as a plus. I'm also not the type who plays around with casual sex. So, it's not easy to find a man to spend time with. It's actually down right discouraging.

I've tried dating. I don't want to talk about it more than to sum it up. Men my age seem to be looking for casual sex, no matter what they actually say. Also, no matter what they look like in size or shape they all seem to want "fit" women. I don't mind this too much. I'd rather be with someone who wants to be with me, without trying to make myself become who they want. (Within reason).

I'm not writing this to criticize the men. They are human too, after all. I'm not looking for a perfect man and I don't want to try to make myself into someone's perfect woman. I would like to find a guy who wants me though. Me, as I am. I expect I will change, for the better and likely other things will just never get any better than they are right now. I'm a realist.

Introverted and Quiet, But a Good Listener

I find it difficult to meet men. I'm a bit shy, introverted. I can get over that and be social but I have to get out of my own head in order to do it. I just ignore myself and go ahead and be social.

I've always been a good listener. Probably because I don't talk as much as the person I'm listening to. But, I do like to listen, to learn and get to know people.

I've given up on most dating sites.

First, I don't want to pay to join a site. Then find out there are no men in my area. Or, at least no men who say they are interested in large women and an actual relationship involving getting to know a person versus just having a warm body to screw.

Secondly, I don't like to join a site that looks promising and claims to be free only to find out it stops being free when you actually find someone you want to contact. What is the point of using a "free" site if you can't do anything once you set up a profile? No one can contact you, unless they pay for it, either.

Why is it so Hard to Find a BHM?

I'd like to meet a man who is large sized, taller than I am (not a challenge) and not slender. Someone local so we could have a real relationship not 'let's pretend' online. A man who has humour - likes to laugh and doesn't take everything too seriously all the time. A man who cares about others and yet has that balance of not doing too much either. Everyone needs some space for themselves, it never works to give too much of yourself.

I'd like to meet a man who would go on road trips with me. I like finding and photographing old buildings and places. I like spending time in bookstores and then spending time in coffee shops reading the books I have. I really like a weekend getaway. Just drive somewhere and spend time... doing nothing much. I can make plans or have a general plan for the day with room for unexpected detours.

I'd like a man who could come to family dinners and work with me when we host the family for dinners and holidays. Not that I'm an event manager but I do like family and value those connections. Even when things aren't going smooth and I might be really annoyed with one or more of them.

I like science fiction and history. I like various types and styles of art and I like making things, sewing and crafts. I'm not especially religious, if I'm anything I'm Pagan, not an organized religion. I'm not an animal person, I'm allergic to them. I'm not a neat freak, it bugs me when someone is compulsive about putting every last thing away right down to the coffee maker. I don't want to move anywhere to meet someone, I've already done that once when I was about ten years younger.

Why is it so hard to meet a nice Big Handsome Man? I don't think I'm expecting too much but I don't want to ask for too little either.

Looking for a way to make some extra money and think you could take on being a paid Domme? Let's call it a Dominatrix. That usually seems more like the professional name for someone in the business of providing adult services.

How to Look Like a Dominatrix

There is an expected fashion when you get paid to act the role of Dominatrix.

• Leather, latex or something designer the colour is most often black and the clothes are tight fitting. Corsets are in fashion.
• Heels, high heels whether on thigh-high boots or shoes with spike heels, the Dominatrix does not wear comfortable shoes.
• Accessorize with garter belts, fishnet stockings, a studded collar, long elbow length gloves.
• Hairstyles are likely pulled back from your face, out of the way and looking strict and severe.
• Carry the tools of the trade, even if you don't actually use them. A whip, chains and such make good extras.

How to Act Like a Dominatrix

Be aware of your presentation, how you stand, move and speak. Body language and posture can work in your favour. How you speak and what you say are also important. Be self aware. Study yourself in a mirror to see which poses and facial expressions work best for you.

Act confident and in charge. You aren't actually in charge because you are playing a role for him. But, you need to give him the feeling that you are in charge and he is not. Confidence is easier to fake when you stand tall have a plan and a road map to follow.

The plan is important. You do not want to find yourself with a client expecting an hour spent serving you but you run out of things to do with him in the first ten minutes. Plan for more activities than you will need. You are also responsible for keeping him (and yourself) safe from harm. You need to know what you are doing. If he wants a fetish or kink you don't know enough about be honest rather than taking things from pain pleasure to just plain pain. A safe word is not enough. You're a professional, paid to know what you are doing, or at least make sure your client does not get more than he asked for.

Know your client's needs and expectations before you begin. Also, know what you will need, tools and experience, to perform for the client. Know how far to go and what a real stop is versus a stop that is just his part of the game. Clients may want to beg you to stop but have you continue on as if you really were teasing, tormenting or torturing for your own amusement.

A Dominatrix does not have sex with her clients. Sex is not part of the performance/ service.

Learn the skills you need. Know how to use a whip before you pull one out and flick it around in the presence of a client. Know how to spank using anything from a hairbrush to your own hand. You are the professional and expected to have the knowledge to perform.

Pay attention to the stereotypes because you will be performing to the standards of your client and he (or she) has very likely built up a scenario based entirely on the stereotypical Dominatrix, kinks and fetishes.

This is pretty old, but I think someone is still maintaining it, updating it to be unisex since I found it years ago. It was all plain text then, now you can do it online. If you have time and enough interest to finish it. This is an edition from 1992, but there could be other updates if you wanted to look for them.

The 1500 Point Purity Test

If you thought the millenial purity test was bad, well you ain't seen nuttin' yet!

This is the 1500 point Purity Test!

We felt that the 1000 point version lost a lot of the "fun" of the earlier versions, so we re-wrote it, adding a few new sections, and a shitload of questions. This test is guaranteed to be nosier than your parents, more invasive than the census, and containing something to offend everybody.

Enjoy (and I know you will).

Public domain; no copyright. All rights wronged, all wrongs reversed. Up with going down. The risen flesh commands: let there be love. Murphy's law on sex: Love is a matter of chemistry; sex is a matter of physics.

This document was not sponsored by the Department of Defense Advanced Research Projects Agency, and was not monitored by the Air Force Avionics Laboratory. The views and conclusions contained in this document should not be interpreted as representing the official policies, either expressed or implied, of the Defense Advanced Projects Agency or the US Government. Neither should it be interpreted nor inferred that the authors/contributors have actually performed any of the actions contained herein.

Instructions for Use: This is a fairly long test consisting of 1500 questions. It starts out tame and gets progressively worse (or better, depending on your viewpoint). There are many ways of going about taking this test. You can, of course, as your right, guaranteed by the Constitution, be anti-social and sequester yourself in your room and take this test all by yourself; however, we feel that the most fun way to utilize this test is to hold a Purity Test Party. All you need is one copy of the test, and a bunch of friends. (Lots of writing implements and paper would be useful too.) The person with the copy of the test is the test administrator; s/he reads the questions out loud and everybody else writes down their answers. We have no definite rules as to whether the participants are required to divulge their answers; that is up to the group to decide. However, being open with your answers leads to some great conversations. But no matter what you decide, each person's purity score should be made common knowledge. (The person with the highest score gets to be giggled at for the rest of his/her life.) This works great at parties and lets everybody know who's easy and who isn't, so you'll know who to go home with. Don't leave home without it.

On the whole, this is biased for experience and, hence, age. If you're still too young to qualify, well, these things take time. Chaste makes waste. Virginity can be cured. Remember: the conjugation is "I am erotic, You are kinky, They are perverts"

All questions in this test pertain to events that have happened to you subsequent to your weaning and babyhood/infancy. Anything that may have happened before that time is considered not standing and void.

Definitions: (for the innocent, naive, or too busy) Necking: the kissing or stroking of a persons head or neck, the stroking of arms hands or back. Petting: the above plus the caressing or fondling of other portions of anatomy; through or underneath clothing. Sexual activity: all of the above, plus what your puerile imagination dreams up. Doesn't necessarily mean penetration (but it can). Posslq: "person of the opposite sex sharing living quarters." Bureaucrat for live-in lover. Masturbation: the rubbing/feeling of your genitals. Doesn't need to be to orgasm. Can be through clothing. Mutual Masturbation: You masturbating your partner and/or you being masturbated. Not necessarily both at the same time. We would now like to bring to your attention that there is no passing nor failing score. Therefore, one really shouldn't worry too much about getting a high score...even if you do get giggled at for the rest of your life.

--- ALL TECHNICALITIES COUNT --- And, most of all, this is entertainment. Have as much fun in the taking as was had in the making.

Note to the test administrator:

Even though we tried to prevent it, this test can get monotonous. Try to "liven" it up by adding comments and goofiness wherever you want to. Encourage testees to be open with their answers. Taking a break is allowed, but not recommended. Plan on a few hours. Order some pizza. Get a keg. Have a party.

Perverts Anonymous Qualification Exam Version 6.6b 02:36.42am August 17, 1992 primary writer: Steamed Rhubarb Fondue (J. A. Pfaff) contributing writers: Wolvorine (Owen Kuhn), Astra (JAN!), and friends and family of The Erotic Nightmare Revue Toledo, Ohio, USA