Originally posted to Sex Kitten.net.

I’ve known Gracie a long time. We’ve yet to meet face to face but there have been a lot of laughs and late night conversations over the years. Some day we will get together and my Prince will come and pigs will fly and so on. But, of all those, I think chances are good Gracie and I will manage to be at the same place at the same time. Eventually.

I can imagine how that will be. A winter day I think. Just a personal preference. Snow included but not a blizzard, more like one of those lazy, drifting snowflake kind of days. You might think you were inside a snowglobe, that kind of day.

Although a real meeting would be in a coffee shop or something practical like that, for this story we should meet somewhere unique. I’d say a sex toy shop but Gracie would out do me there. I’d be asking her what this is and what that was for and she’d tell me. As educational as that would be, I’m not sure I want her laughing at me when it’s far more fun to laugh with her.

So… we would have to meet at a bar. I know that sounds pretty ordinary to a lot of people. But, I can count the number of bars I have been in on one hand. So for me it would be fun without the background of marital aids. Plus, we could talk about the men.

We have different tastes and styles. For one thing, I’m Canadian and I like science fiction, romance, Domming and I don’t like swearing. Gracie is… not me. Gracie can fill in all those blanks for you, if she chooses. I’d rather not speak for her, too much. (We already know how great I am at keeping secrets).

Anyway, there we would meet, in the bar. Likely it would be in her town as I like to travel and I don’t have a lot of obligations to get out of he way before I pack up and head for the bus. I like bus travel, it lets you think and really feel the “getting away from it all”.

I’d know Gracie right away, of course. She’d be the one sitting there with a red dress and fangs. No, she doesn’t have fangs, not really. But, you did wonder for a moment didn’t you? Even without the fake fangs, I’d know Gracie. She’d have a smirk, a smart ass smirk.

To be continued… by Gracie (or possibly me if Gracie thinks this was another of my silly ideas).

I've been disillusioned about men online before, many times. But, reading the posts to #ByeFelipe is just sad. Some people will write about this site (the hashtag has an Instagram, Twitter and Facebook page) and complain or rant about men. Then there will be angry men who leave ignorant comments - men of the #ByeFelipe caliber.

#ByeFelipe showcases the dating scene online and how men respond to women who say no.

The strange thing is how little the men put into these interactions and how aggressive they become when the women don't give them what they want. Most settle into calling the women names: fat, whore, ugly, bitch, etc. I read one where he threatened to keep harassing her until she sent him nude photos of herself.  This is based on a one time, often one sentence, contact.

#ByeFelipe is sickening to read through. I laughed at first but it got less funny as I thought of all the men doing this and wondered about the men I know. Men I wouldn't suspect of this and yet... these men are all sons, brothers, uncles, husbands (no doubt in some cases).

We think the men writing this are ignorant due to their attitude and poor/ lazy spelling. We think they are jerks due to the aggression which comes far too easily. We don't think of these men as someone we know (and like). We don't think of these as the men we respect. But, we don't know and that's the problem.

These men pretend to be friendly, sincere and interested and then turn on her as soon as she isn't interested. Obviously there is no honesty or sincerity in their first contact then. These men would be a very bad risk to actually meet. So how do women risk meeting any men? Unfortunately this is what men don't seem to understand. They think they are all good guys and it's not their fault women are... (fill in the blank).

One last note: how much of this attitude could be changed if women were not shown as provocative in order to market products? If women were not seen as the sex in sex sells maybe men wouldn't think every woman should be available to have sex with them. Maybe even these men could see women as people rather than sex toys. Maybe men could treat (and think of) women like people even if they are not serving a sexual purpose for them.

Read more about #ByeFelipe and the interview with the founder.

I've come to conclude that the adult baby fetish is not my thing. I do like age play, to a point. However, there is no way I want to change an adult diaper. I can't find anything sexy or appealing in that. An adult wetting or wearing a wet diaper is not a turn on for me.

Most of all, I think it would feel very lonely as the Domme in an adult baby relationship. Speaking for myself only but thinking of experience I have had where two people in a relationship don't have a balance, or have the same level for communication, interaction and intimacy. It gets lonely when you are the only adult in a relationship. Sure, it can be fun for an hour, or an afternoon. But, at some point I'd begin to feel isolated and wish I had an adult to be an adult with.

I don't understand the allure of being an infant. I admit I look after children but I prefer not to look after babies. They eat, sleep and need to be cleaned up. At least children can carry some sort of conversation, play a game, help wash dishes, and so on. A baby is nice, but even nicer to leave them nap while I go on and do more interesting things.

10 Strangest Adult Babies via Oddee.com

You've gotten through her screening process and she has set a time and place for you to meet her, face to face. Now what? How do you make a good first impression on a real Domme when you meet for the first time? I don't mean the type of Dominant woman you pay, the one who asks you what you want and tells you how much it will cost. No, I mean the Domme who is a real woman and wants more than a temporary job when she arranges to meet you.

• Dress appropriately:

You are most likely meeting in a public place. If you wear any fetish wear be very discreet and don't wave it around in public. Something small which you leave her to notice is much more effective than a blatant display.

Dress up too. Look your best and pay attention to grooming. Trim facial hair, clean your fingernails, etc.

• Show up and be on time or a bit early:

Don't be late! Too many times men do not show up or arrive late. If you are not ready to meet her (or only want to play pretend online) don't make the appointment in the first place. Be honest.

• Bring a little gift:

Nothing elaborate, you aren't paying for her favours. Keep it simple but this is a chance for you to show some cleverness, creativity, style and prove that you actually did pay attention to what she has told you about herself so far.

• Offer to buy the first coffee/ wine:

She may turn down the offer, but that doesn't excuse you from offering. Be a gentleman and remember your old fashioned manners.

• Make small talk:

Until she introduces the subject of BDSM or D/s you keep the conversation light. Consider this your first test, because it likely is one of the things she is watching for.

• When the subject of BDSM or sex comes up don't rush in:

Don't bring your grocery list of fetishes and kinky ideas to the table. Of course you want to know if she shares your interests, however chances are your list is more fantasy than fact. Talk to her about actual experience you have had versus stuff you want to try, think would be a big turn on, etc. Stick to the facts. If she asks what you want to try and have not done yet, keep it modest. Don't make yourself sound like a window shopper - keep it realistic.

• Watch your personal space:

Do not invade her personal space. Keep your arms, hands, coffee mugs, wine glass and etc to your own side of the table. Body language counts!

• Bring a business card if you have one:

Unless you are paying her (which this post is not about) you should be prepared to give her information about yourself. Proof that you are available, that she can contact you, that you trust her (and thus she can trust you too). If you do not have a business card make sure she has your correct phone number, email address or any other way of contacting you and then ask her to contact you.

• To hug or not to hug:

At the end of your time, if all has gone well, you might want some physical contact. Let her lead, however you can offer your hand or ask permission to give her a hug, etc.

Do not ask for sex! Asking for sex just proves you don't really have half a clue about male submission. If you want to serve her, your needs do not come first. Sex may not even be part of what she wants.

• After the first meeting send her a thank you note:

Thank her for meeting you, tell her you had a good time, enjoyed getting to know her, and so on. Don't ask for a second meeting - but you can tell her you hope to see her again soon. You can suggest a great place or local event for a second meeting, but leave it up to her to choose.

I'd add to Gracie's post (see below) and say the hormones for men and women are on opposing sides. For men sex is pretty simple, you're in and then your're done. For women sex isn't simple. Getting pregnant is just one thing.

Although I think it is changing for younger people, those just coming out of high school, women have been taught/ brain washed to dislike our bodies and think we should not have sex. That's a combination that doesn't work out so well for men who want simple, easy sex.

A typical woman does not go a day without seeing standards of female beauty, vitality and sexuality plastered all over her world. This does not make the typical woman feel desirable. No wonder she doesn't feel like having sex any and every time he asks. How many men could go through a day of being shown how inadequate they are and then perform upon request?

Also, being asked for sex in a "pass the salt" way is not romantic. Not that every sexual encounter should or must be romantic, but... It shouldn't be as commonplace as going to the bathroom either.

Could men put some effort into getting sex? Beyond just asking and expecting sex, could men make it seem like they care versus just taking care of a bodily function? If men need more sex then do what women have done since the dawn of time: masturbate. The orgasms are much better, fantasies are great, and there's less mess to clean up. What do men think all those rejected women do when they get home, alone?

Dudes, your hormones (primarily, anyway) cycle every 24 hours; that, and not your love for us, is why you get a woody every morning. On the other hand, our cycle of hormones is a bit more complicated and lengthy than that; the result is that we are on far less of a “daily horny schedule” than men. And that’s before we get into realities like the processes of pregnancy and menopause. We don’t just age and change to disrupt your fantasies and desires; we ride the wild wave of our biology because that’s fucking life. Literally.

In a civilized culture, where humanity & good citizenry is defined largely by our ability to override our animal nature, hormones still have their way with us. Even amidst our culture wars and culture lag, they play their role. But, romance aside, if culture is to override such base things as biology, then something desperately needs to be done in terms of equality and the messages being sent to and about women.

Source: Hetero Men Complain About Sexual Rejection From Women. Really? | Sex~Kitten.net