Female Sexual Arousal Disorder – is it real or is it just a bunch of horny men?

I used to write an adult sort of column for a website. It was sometimes fun, interesting, and sometimes aggravating. The issue about women and sex is huge and complicated.

I have wondered what our culture would really be like if it were balanced for men and women. Or, really, what would our day to day lives be like if we lived in an Amazon culture where women are the leaders? Have always been the leaders. Those in charge, making the rules, setting the standards. I don't believe we can even imagine it. Our own culture is so far the other way its not something we can understand.

Movies and stories are created about imagined Amazon cultures. They are always based on our current standards. Of course, it matters who the writer is. Their own ideas, notions, and experiences. I don't think it is at all possible for anyone to get an unbiased look at how a women-led world would be. How it would have evolved.

We are biased, even the most radical feminist, is biased by the world as it is, the culture we have grown up in. So, the idea that women have a sexual arousal disorder is ludicrous/ ridiculous. Who is so qualified and unbiased to decide what sexual arousal should be for anyone? What's normal and who can make that decision for someone else.

So, yes, it seems to me this idea of female sexual arousal disorder is based on the expectations of men. Just because men, in general seem to want more sex, how does that mean a woman is out of order if she does not have that same interest?

For me that's just the start of it. Men and women tend to live different lives, with different expectations about who they are, who they should be, and what they should do. The old double standard, the idea that she is a lady in the streets and a whore in the sheets, she is someone's sainted mother and someone else's wife, less saintly. Then... can we even agree about what is a women, a female any more?

There is the tip of a pretty interesting and slippery iceberg. Lets leave it that I do not believe in female sexual arousal disorder.

An unfinished list.

1. Place him in a doorway, tied up.
2. Pose him for kinky photography.
3. Doodle on him with washable markers.
4. Play with ice cubes and rubber gloves.
5. Get him to make snow angels in the winter.
6. Play catch with water balloons in the summer.
7. Tickle him with a feather duster.
8. Blindfold him.
9. Admire him, out loud.
10. Keep him in a cage.
11. Put him in bondage and explore his body.
12. Display him in front of a curtained window.

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This comes from a personal site which will probably disappear when Tripod starts to dump it's free hosting.

Male slaves/ submissives following the Gorean ways are kind of rare.  The only thing I really hear about is collaring. There is more to it. It has a lot of ceremony and tradition. It's quiet and calm (at least that's how I have seen it to be) versus the aggressive sort of D/s men talk about and claim to want. Of course, you can bring in other ideas and adapt anything, but I generally like the softer, quiet and composed side of the Gorean kajirus way.

So, you have chosen to become a sub, or slave, otherwise known as a kajira/kajirus on Gor. This page will assist you, helping you to become a better slave, and give you advise on protocols such as serving, punishments and the like.

The life on Gor that you are placed in leaves you with no control. You are owned and do as you are told or face the consequences. Bring enough dishonour in your actions, and you will find yourself dead. Masters/Mistress will not put up with a disobediant slave for long, so you must ensure that you please and honour the Masters and Mistresses that you serve.

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I admit, I like even reading about male slaves in the Gor books/ fetish. They call them Kajirus. I like all the rules and standards they were given. There is far less written about male slaves, even less about male slaves with female owners. Most of the modern information I find online is geared to gay males. But, no big surprise there. Any time you look for men in chains or bondage, etc most of it will be gay men (until it becomes yet more erotica for men in general). Women as Doms are very much under represented. …more

1. Sex is an antidote to menstrual pains. It is a lie. Menstrual pain is natural with every female; you can't stop it by having sex.
2. Sex stops wet dream. It is part of every male beginning from puberty to have nocturnal discharge of excess sperm that is stored up in the body. It is normal.
3. It is a lie that boys who keep away from sex will often have stomach or an abdominal problem.
4. Having sex as a teenager prepares you for a good sex life in marriage relationships. It is not true.
5. If you don't have sex as a single, you will find it difficult to deliver babies. It is a lie.
6. There is the need to test the potency or fertility of your partner. A single test can lead you to habitual sex. Avoid it.
7. Romance is the only thing you need without having sex. Romantic acts such as pecking and fondling of the breasts will stimulate you for sex.
8. If you don't have sex, it shows you are not mature. Signs of puberty are enough to tell you that you are ripe for sex. Don't give in to deceit by testing your maturity through untimely sex.
9. Men hate virgins. It is not true. The best gift to offer your husband after wedding is your virginity.
10. It is much easier to de-flower a girl than a married adult. No matter your age, you will still experience pain when you have sex the first time. Keep yourself till marriage.
11. Giving sex to a boy wins his love for you. Sex does not prove love. Prostitutes do have sex without any emotional attachment to their customers.
12. Sex is a good tool to keep your date faithful to your relationship till marriage. It is false.
13. If you shy away from sex, you are not a cute boy or a cute girl. It shows that you are not disciplined as a youngster.
14. Having sex the first time in your virginity does not lead to pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. Who told you that? Don't take foolish risk.
15. Having multiple sex partners is part of life. That's another lie.
16. If a girl or a boy does not demand for sex, she or he does not love you. It is a lie.
17. Sex is a common thing that everybody is doing. It is not true. Some people still keep their chastity.
18. Adequate experience in sex will make the effect of rape less severe on you. It is by no means true.

Wisdom is better than folly. Generally, people may pretend not to appreciate it that there is great value in chastity and fidelity. Don't believe lies. Take note of these lies as you go on onto any dating experience.

Grace Lawrence is a Mom who is passionate about writing on Relationships. She is an experienced counsellor.

Source: 18 Lies About Sex That Every Single Must Know - Loveguides.online