I moved my blog to Divorce Darling awhile ago.

Now I decided to write a weekly writing prompt for adult writers, erotica writers and sex bloggers.  It happens to be Tuesday today so let's call it Tempting Tuesday. This post is just an announcement. See more on Divorce Darling each week, on Tuesday.

The first writing prompt will be...

There's a fly in the room. Not just on the wall, like a spectator, but actually buzzing around and making a pest of itself. Write an erotic scene, including an annoying fly. 

He wanted everything to be perfect. After endless months of searching, hoping and personal ads... he had found a Domme. A real Domme. A woman who understood his needs, a woman he could serve. A woman who didn't expect to be paid for letting him serve her.

One minute before the hour he unlocked his front door, stripped off his clothes and knelt down at the door. He had already measured out the distance he needed to be so the door wouldn't knock into him when she opened it. He trembled in anticipation. Would she use all his toys? Maybe she'd lock him in chastity tonight, their first night even? How exciting that would be. So under her control, deep into submission and so fully at her mercy.

At exactly the hour the door opened, there she was... but, this wasn't right! Where was the black leather? Where were the stiletto heels? She wasn't even holding a whip. It looked like just a purse... a brown, beat up looking purse. Was she going to change now that she was here?

He said nothing, just bowed low, pushing his nose into the carpet. Subservient, properly submissive. Waiting for her command. …more

I don't have any real interest in swallowing anything connected with male orgasm. I have a lot of negative feelings concerning the whole cock sucking deal.

First, this post is in reply to Blow You? Blow Me on Sex Kitten. Her end point was that men should not expect more from their partners than they are willing (or actively giving) themselves. I agree.

But, I don't agree with the whole experience of cock sucking and I sure won't be swallowing it.

From my early days as a young woman I would hear my brother and his friends calling each other and even people they really did want to piss off, cock suckers. It was not a phrase they used in a nice way. They were intentionally being nasty. A cock sucker was not someone well thought of. It was not a profession to work towards, etc.

I have not built up a better impression of the whole cock sucking thing in the years since then. Men don't admire and think well of women who suck cocks. They don't call them pretty, cute things - they call them cock suckers and other terms which just don't sound complimentary.

Think about it... would you want to be a cock sucker?

So, no, I'm not delightedly rushing off to buy the T-shirt.

However, I have done the act, more than once. It did please me to please the man in my life at the time. In each case this man did not really reciprocate. I was left feeling kind of used and dirty like a snot rag (another phrase from my brother and his friends). I didn't enjoy that feeling. I didn't long for a repeat of it.

Most of the women I know (only one exception) thinks cock sucking is dirty and nasty. Ladies don't do that sort of thing. If they do they don't broadcast it. It's like a dirty little secret. I have never told my Mother I've done it. I don't know if I have ever put it on paper or spoken the words to admit to doing it ever, before now. It feels like a dirty little secret, right up there with bestiality.

Women are supposed to keep clean, tidy and pretty. We don't let men spit, pee, come or any other bodily functions on us. That would be dirty and gross. That would make us dirty, in reality and gross, at least in our own minds. Men seem to see it that way too. They claim they want women to suck their cocks, to swallow and to let them come on our faces, etc. But, there is still the feeling of nice girls and sluts. Don't let anyone tell you that's just an old fashioned thing. It's not.

So, in the long run, I see no real advantage to becoming a cock sucker. The issue of swallowing is just not going to happen. There will not be any coming on me either. Not unless I get to shoot something of my choice at him first.

As the Sex Kitten post concludes too: Why have I never, ever heard a woman complain about her male partner not swallowing when he licks her pussy? Just something else to think about.

I've linked to Mariel Clayton, doll photographer with a subversive sense of humour before. Tonight I found Nancy Farmer, artist and doll photographer with a kinky sense of humour.

I posted a few links for Kinky Barbie to Sex Kitten tonight. (Have you read the posts in Laura's Boudoir there before?) The first link I found, which gave me the inspiration to look for more, was a Flickr group for Kinky Barbie and Friends. Have a look at OOAK Barbies too.

It was at Domi Dollz that I discovered Nancy Farmer, her art, photography and her Etsy Fetishdollies shop and a second shop on DaWanda.

About the Fetishdollies:

This is part of a little photography project I've been doing for some time. All rather silly, and some of it is quite indecent, but it keeps me off the streets! There is no trick photography in any of this, just patience and handmade accessories. The subject matter varies from merely suggestive, to downright rude but all, I hope you will find, done with a sense of humor.

I read a post by a man talking about how hard it is to find a Domme who will date boys. My first thought was to wonder where he is looking cause I find there are plenty of Dom women who are looking. Then, it occurred to me... he is talking about professional women, only.

Men who spend their time paying to be Dommed narrow their minds a great deal. Maybe it is the idea that being a Domme is a bad thing, something only a wicked, dirty woman would do. The other women they work with, see in the grocery store, talk to on the bus, etc. would never be the sort to do something like that. So they can only think of the professional Domme/ FemDoms when they consider having a real relationship with a Domme. It must be something like that, cause it just can't be that men are generally so narrow minded, can it?

If you are only trying to date the Dommes who perform as a job/ get paid you are barking up the wrong tree. Not all of them are Dommes outside of work. My friend was a professional but is happily married and living with her husband as his sub. She can work it either way for clients, but her reality is different. Also, I expect dating the men they meet through business is like taking their work home with them. When do they get time to be just themselves if they have to Dom all the time?

There are women who are not professionals and those tend to be the women who know what they want and would like a relationship with a man who knows his place. However, I am cautious about men who have paid for it. They get the wrong idea and assume it will always be done their way, a performance on command.