Sadly I have not figured out the finer points of LJ so you're stuck with the raw link rather than a pretty picture or a professionally hyper linked text doodle thing.

http://writersresource.tribe.net/

Here is the new group for writers which I have started. I used my own ASCII art for the group graphic. Kind of nice. I made it for Suite101 but didn't stick around there long with the big changes they made to the layout. So, here we are from InkSplatters to WordCraft and now.... Writers Resource. My titles are getting kind of bland. But, no one will wonder what the group is for. In theory.

I'm sure there must be more people like me out there, somewhere. Surely at least a couple of them are male. Why do I keep meeting people who want me to be someone else, or expect me to fit some mould/ stereotype? I don't want to. I like to do things my way, cause my way is good too. It's not the only way, I'm not completely vain or blind to other options. But, I'm pretty clever in my own way. The odd way.

I am tired of trying to become what people want or expect me to. Or, maybe worse, accepting people (men) and making excuses and rationalizations for how it can work out, how I'm just thinking too much or trying to find someone who can't really exist. As if I'M the one who is expecting too much. I try to wrap myself around their little finger. It's damn time I took a coffee break on that.

Surely, there is a guy, who doesn't live so far away as to require long distance relating, who could actually enjoy my company, as I am. The real me, dorky, nerdy, flawed, passionate, artsy, scared, stubborn, caring, unreasonable, impatient, eccentric, unorganized, sensual, quiet, independent, old fashioned, crafty and on and on. And on.

Why do I keep meeting odd guys who don't care about the things that matter to me. Guys who seem to have more problems than I do, guys who want me to come to rescue them, guys who don't care about good punctuation, guys who can't carry a conversation above sex, guys who lie about things that don't really matter, guys who think a woman's body is all that matters. Guys who honestly, really and truly bore me. Why do I keep thinking that is all the choice I have? Why do I sell myself short?

I'm tired of it. But, I just can't believe there really isn't at least one guy out there who is abnormal in enough ways to mesh with all my abnormal. No normal, please, that would be boring. There must be an intelligent, interesting, passionate, optimistic guy out there. One who doesn't need to put me down to make himself feel bigger or better. One who doesn't mind some chaos and doesn't think all the dishes have to be sorted by size and put away right away. One who likes to read and talk about ideas, the weather and other things of interest. Bedsport too but not as a focus, crowding out all else.

Anyway, here I am. Come and get me. I'll leave a trail of typos, chocolate wrappers and spilled coffee. If you have/ know the words you'll find the way.

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agingyoungrebel (Writer from BackWash.com)

Sure, guys like that must exist, Laura. Don't give up hope.

"It's time women stomped on a few feet (or inches) and took back our words: slut, bitch, hag, whore and all the rest of them. They belong to us. Words are our power. No man really has the same power with words that women do. I think that's why men have tried to throw words at us like darts. They chip at our glory with our own greatest tool and assets. But, the words are ours, still.

Think, what are women so well known for which men have never grasped? Communication. Men will even admit this if you catch them in a particularly honest moment. I've seen them post it, right here at Adult BW even.

Also, did you know most bloggers are women and the numbers of women rise dramatically when it comes to sex bloggers. Women talk about relationships, passion, sensuality and sexuality. Men are close mouthed. Or, they will talk about the crude basics like how well they nailed her. Sadly, they may be the only one who thinks that way about their skills. Which is another whole column I will write someday. I think I should have that third lover first though. Real versus cyber but still, I've seen some sad fumbling whether on my flesh or virtual.

Anyway, back to the words. I want women to stop thinking being called a bitch is negative. First of all, think how surprised people will be if you take the worst word they can hurl at you as a compliment. If you say "thank you". If you laugh while they stand there red faced, eyes still bugging out and looking amazed that their insult missed the mark so completely.

Don't think of Bitch as a female dog, think of it as a powerful woman. A woman who knows her own mind and is not afraid to use it. A woman who knows what she wants and goes out there and gets it. Ball grabbing and everything, just like those bags of mostly testosterone.

Slut and whore are no longer words to chip at our sexuality. Now they prove our sexual virility, our sensuality and our power over men, especially when it comes to sex. If they call you a slut you know you've done a really good job making him drool. Good for you! Let the dog lie there in his own wet spot and wish he could have a slut like you.

Hag, that's a word meant to hit us right between the eyes. We think of hags as old women, grey, washed out, worn out, wrinkled, ugly and badly groomed to say the least. But, a hag is not actually any of those things. The hag is the wise old woman, the woman of the woods, the witch, the midwife, the wild Earth Mother. Hags are powerful women too. Women of nature and power. Most of the less than complimentary words for women have come from powerful beginnings. The power of these words was drained away as was the power of womankind. As we stopped being matriarchies we lost our best words. I still would not like to be called a hag or a frump or any of those others. There is malicious intent behind the words. However, the words themselves are being unfairly (ignorantly) used.

It's time for us to make the words mean something else, make them positive and powerful. Then we will have all our best tools and there is nothing anyone can do about it. Call us what you will, it's all good. We are Woman!"

1. WHAT COLOR ARE YOUR KITCHEN PLATES? I eat over the sink or out of measuring cups, microwaves dishes, etc.

2. WHAT BOOK ARE YOU READING NOW? The Secret Woman by Victoria Holt.

3. WHAT'S ON YOUR MOUSE PAD? Still the big smiley face my ex husband gave me.

4. WHAT'S YOUR FAVORITE BOARD GAME? Scrabble

5. FAVORITE MAGAZINE? The Writer

6. FAVORITE SMELL? vanilla, chocolate, citrus, fresh paper.

7. LEAST FAVORITE SMELL? spoiled split pea soup or anything else that makes you gag while trying to clean it up.

8. WHAT'S THE FIRST THING YOU THINK OF WHEN YOU WAKE UP IN THE MORNING? Mmmmmm... nothing in particular for a couple of minutes. Just kind of a satisfied mmmmm kind of feeling. Then I remember I have to go to work, do housework, etc.

9.FAVORITE COLOR? deep, dark red.

10. LEAST FAVORITE COLOR? black

11. HOW MANY RINGS BEFORE YOU ANSWER THE PHONE? I check the messages now and then.

12. FUTURE CHILDS NAMES? Lots of choices, always changing.

13. WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT IN LIFE? Me! Me! Always ME!!!! lol

14. CHOCOLATE OR VANILLA? Vanilla with lots of chocolate chunks and ribbons of gooey caramel.

5. DO YOU LIKE TO DRIVE FAST? I would love to but it's risky to pedestrians.

16. DO YOU SLEEP WITH A STUFFED ANIMAL? Not even when I was a kid.

17. STORMS-COOL OR SCARY? One of my favourite things. I like to walk outside in the middle of a storm.

18. WHAT TYPE WAS YOUR FIRST CAR? Ford Tempo.

19. IF YOU COULD MEET ONE PERSON DEAD OR ALIVE WHO WOULD IT BE? Me, in the future.

20. FAVORITE ALCOHOLIC DRINK? Irish coffee when I'm in the mood.

21. WHAT IS YOUR SIGN & BIRTHDAY? Sagittarius, December, year of the Dragon.

22. DO YOU EAT THE STEMS OF BROCCOLI? Yes.

23. IF YOU COULD HAVE ANY JOB WHAT WOULD IT BE? Obsessively notorius newspaper columnist.

24. IF YOU COULD HAVE ANY COLOR HAIR WHAT WOULD IT BE? I like my natural colour.

25. IS THE GLASS HALF FULL OR HALf EMPTY? What's it full of?

26. FAVORITE MOVIE? Pretty much which ever one my date pays for.

27. DO YOU TYPE WITH THE RIGHT FINGERS ON THE KEYS? Yes, I type as fast as I think.

28. WHAT'S UNDER YOUR BED? A dust bunny revolution. Have to keep kicking them back under there.

29. WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE NUMBER? 3, 6, 4, 19, ....

31. WHAT IS YOUR BIGGEST FEAR? Being ignored, I hate that, or maybe that's a pet peeve...

32. WHAT IS YOUR DREAM CAR? One that never needs repairs and never runs out of gas.

33. PERSON(S) MOST LIKELY TO RESPOND? I've been here before.

34. PERSON(S) YOU SENT THIS TO WHO IS LEAST LIKELY TO RESPOND? Ditto.

35. FAVORITE CD? Friends make them for me, I like all of those.

36. FAVORITE TV SHOW? Whatever I can sit through.

37. KETCHUP OR MUSTARD? Relish

38. HAMBURGERS OR HOT DOGS? Club sandwich.

39. FAVORITE SOFT DRINK? diet coke but coffee is better.

40. THE BEST PLACE YOU HAVE EVER BEEN? Where ever I am.

41 what is on your screen saver? I forget, tall ships I think.

42. BURGER KING OR MCDONALDS? Swiss Chalet.

43. FAVORITE PET: Human male.